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Our daughter just told us she's pregnant, and it's really thrown us into a spin. She's barely 16, and to make matters worse the boy won't have anything to do with her. I've never been in favor of abortion, but I'm beginning to wonder if it might not be best. What would you advise?


Almost every week I receive at least one letter from someone facing this problem, and my heart goes out to you during this difficult time. Perhaps your daughter’s sad experience will make someone who is tempted to take the same path she took to stop and reconsider.

My prayer is that you and your daughter will not end the life of the little child who is growing within her. Yes, abortion sounds like an easy way out—but all human life is sacred, and should never be taken without just cause. Yes, it was wrong for your daughter to have sexual relations outside the commitment of marriage—but two wrongs don’t make a right, and it would be wrong for her to end the life of this little child.

May you and your daughter carefully and prayerfully consider your alternatives. Every year, hundreds of thousands of childless couples yearn to adopt a baby, and I urge you and your daughter to consider this option. She then could have the satisfaction of knowing her baby will grow up in a loving, caring home.

Above all, may you and your daughter turn to Christ, and find in Him the forgiveness and peace He alone can give. God loves your daughter, and He wants to help put her feet on a different path in life. The Bible’s promise is true: In Christ “we have redemption, the forgiveness of sins” (Colossians 1:14).

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  1. Amanda says:

    I was a teenage mother. For me abortion was never an option. I actually decided I was going to raise my son & I did. It was hard, but so worth it. My son is now 20 years old. No parent is perfect. I did the best I could with the help from the Lord. He is a wonderful young man & I am very proud of him. Think over all of your options. May God bless your daughter, the baby & your family.

  2. Nancy C says:

    Please don’t get an abortion. I got one when I was 26 because my husband left me with three children, no money and I had no job. Afterwards I went to work and five years later I remarried and had two more children. I am 80 years old now. And I have never been able to forgive myself for killing one of my babies. I’ve prayed for forgiveness but really don’t think I deserve it. There is no one to say I’m sorry to. It’s been such a heartbreaking trial for me and I wouldn’t wish it on anyone else. Don’t do it. You can never go back and fix it.

  3. Sylvia Seymour says:

    I agree there is an alternative in blessing another couple with a family they may not have had except for the unselfish act of keeping the pregnancy in place. What greater gift to give than life to the baby and the couple who other wise could not experience this.

  4. linda lawrence says:

    I agree with Rev. Graham about this matter. Give your child love and teach him/her God’s Word. Please do not kill this life.

  5. Christene says:

    18 yrs ago today my then sixteen year old daughter gave birth to a beautiful baby girl I was a single mother of two girls at the time and it wasn’t an easy thing to deal with when I learned my oldest was having a baby. Abortion was never considered because as Christians we knew that was not an option nor did she ask me if she could bend the rules. We went to our pastor at our church for counseling and he brought up the option of adoption. My daughter was determined to keep her baby. So after much prayer my part I knew God would see us through! God was with us every step of the way! It’s been a struggle at times but my two daughters and I have been able to do it by the wonderful grace of God!! Trust in Christ He will see you through!