By   •   June 1, 2004   •   Topics: ,


A friend of mine admits that the Bible forbids a married person from having sex outside of marriage (i.e. adultery), but he claims it doesn't say anything about unmarried people having sex. Is he right?


No, he is not. The Bible clearly teaches that all sexual relations outside marriage are wrong in God’s eyes. The Bible bluntly says, “Flee from sexual immorality” (1 Corinthians 6:18). This includes any kind of sexual activity apart from marriage.

Remember that God gave us the gift of sex in the first place–and He intended for it to be a source of joy and happiness for us. But He also intended for it to be restricted to marriage. Why? One reason is because it was to be a sign of the unity between a husband and wife. It was, in other words, meant to be an expression of their mutual commitment and love. But sex outside marriage easily becomes selfish, and even boring.

God knows what is best for us, including this important area of our lives. Why ignore His way, when it is best for us in the long run? The Bible warns, “There is a way that seems right to a man, but in the end it leads to death” (Proverbs 14:12) The Bible also promises, “Blessed are they whose ways are blameless” (Psalm 119:1).

Pray for your friend; I can’t help but wonder if he is only looking for an excuse to live a life of self-indulgence and immorality. But there is forgiveness and new life for all who turn to Christ in repentance and faith. Yes, we live in a sex-saturated society–but with God’s help we can follow a far better path.

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  1. Sarah Robinson says:

    I really needed this to help explain to my boyfriend why we are waiting until marriage.

  2. Crown says:

    I love this. It’s very helpful.

  3. Justin says:

    Proverbs 1:10 “My son if sinners entice thee to sin, consent not.”

  4. Rose Marie says:

    Yes! Fornication is a sin! But some male Christian stated that, “It is ok to do it as long as you marry that woman in the future.” My fiance threatened to leave me if I don’t sleep with him! I love him but I love my God more … I want eternal life with my Lord! Amen.

  5. Thabo Ruele says:

    Thank you for those inspiring words, Jesus is my lord and savior.

  6. Khido Motsamai says:

    Brother Billy please help me with more inspiring life building messages and to allow God to cleanse my body and soul in order to live according to his will. Amen.

    1. Richard Garner says:

      Living this life with Christ is a choice. You must submit your body to God’s will. He will not invade your privacy but he will stand at the door and knock and if any would open he will come in.

  7. Joseph Olu Ayeni says:

    Am impressed to hear your counsel is a great one thanks

  8. Arthur kirkland says:

    If people would try to do what the lord says life would be a lot better for them