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I'm the only one left in my family. All my brothers and my sister have died, as well as my wife (we didn't have any children). Sometimes I feel so lonely I even think about taking my own life, although I know that would be wrong. How can God help a lonely old man like me?


A:

Whenever someone writes to say they’re thinking about taking their own life, I wish I could sit down with them and do everything I possibly could to encourage them and persuade them not to take that final, drastic step. No matter how hard life has gotten, I know that with God there is hope.

And I believe God has a special concern for those who are lonely. After all, He knows what loneliness is, for no one was ever lonelier than His Son on the cross. Not only had all His disciples fled when He was arrested, but all Satan’s forces were arrayed against Him.

Most of all, as the Bible says, He endured the greatest loneliness of all by being separated from God. This happened because He was bearing our sins. No cry of loneliness was ever greater than those words of Jesus from the cross: “My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?” (Matthew 27:46). He did it for one reason: He loves us.

The most important truth you will ever discover is that God loves you. He loves you so much that He wants you to spend eternity with Him in heaven. Turn to Him today, and by faith ask Christ to come into your life. When we know Christ we are never alone. He is with us, and so are our fellow Christians. May God bless you.

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9 Comments

  1. Jose says:

    Never mind forget I ask for help

    1. BGEA says:

      Hi Jose,

      God cares deeply about you and wants what is best for you. He has a future for you – both on this earth and in eternity. Remember that you are important to Him. He says, “You are precious to me . . . and I love you” (Isaiah 43:4). The very reason Jesus Christ came to earth to offer Himself in sacrifice is so that you might have life in all its fullness. It is His desire that you are set free from depression, fear and hurt so that you might experience this abundant life.

      If you have considered suicide, realize that thoughts of taking your life do not come from God but from Satan. Jesus said, “The thief’s (Satan’s) purpose is to steal, kill and destroy. My purpose is to give life in all its fullness” (John 10:10). We are warned in 1 Peter 5:8-10, “Be careful – watch out for attacks from Satan, your great enemy. He prowls around like a hungry, roaring lion, looking for some victim to tear apart. Stand firm when he attacks. Trust the Lord. . . . He personally will come and pick you up, and set you firmly in place, and make you stronger than ever.”

      Pray and ask God to help you with the problems you are facing. 1 Peter 5:7 says, “[cast] all your anxiety on Him, because He cares for you.” Ask Him for wisdom, guidance and strength to endure. Ask Him to help you overcome whatever obstacles are standing in your way. Rest in the assurance that Jesus will “never leave you nor forsake you” when you trust in Him (Hebrews 13:5).

      God wants to help you if you will let Him. God knows about your problems, and He also knows the answer to them. By yourself you might feel helpless, but with Christ’s help there is hope for tomorrow. He can bring good out of even the toughest situations.

      We urge you to begin by giving your life over to Jesus Christ (click here: http://peacewithgod.net/). By surrendering your life to Christ, you are also promised eternity with Him in heaven, where there is no pain, sadness or suffering. You can also talk and pray with someone on this website.

      We also suggest daily Bible reading. Start by reading the Psalms. You might also find help and encouragement in a local church. Sharing your problems with a pastor or other mature Christian can help and encourage you.

      The Suicide Prevention Hotline is 800-273-8255

  2. Vincent bledsoe says:

    Prayers for help and blessings in God’s name, amen

  3. Wilma says:

    I can’t seem to find forgiveness from all the things I did wrong in my past. I have two grown sons who want nothing to do with me because of things I did in my life. I made so many mistakes and was so selfish in my younger years which affected their lives and ruined mine. These regrets seem to block any hope I have for true forgiveness. I have prayed for forgiveness many times, but never really feel that my prayers are getting through. How can I truly, once and for all, forgive myself and move into the love of God?

    1. BGEA says:

      Wilma,
      We rejoice with you that you’re seeking God now. The Bible states, “You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart” (Jeremiah 29:13). Please visit https://peacewithgod.net/ to talk and pray with a member of our team so you can move into the love of God.

  4. Debra Glenn says:

    I’m so tired of the loneliness I have,and the heartache of being homeless and one son in prison the other son won’t except me for who I am, my family of six now won’t help they have their own problems don’t need me to be a burden on them. Don’t have money for rent or car, I don’t know how much more I can take, it’s been nine years and getting worse.

  5. mary ann kernodle says:

    I do feel alone. It is now just me and my brother in my family. My brother is not all that dependable.. He acts like he does not seem to care about what is happening to me or to anyone else. I sort of wonder what is going to happen to me when I become even older and then there is no one around to help me at all. Or there is actually no family at all left.

  6. M says:

    I often feel so alone. I really have no family I can depend on. My mother has dementia and lives with my husband and I. My earthly father and brother took my moms inheritance and assets, I fought hard but it was a battle I could not win. The sad thing is they did terrible things to dishonor me, to make me look bad. I lived my life to help others, my husband and I are Christians he does not understand he has children from his first marriage. Besides him I am alone on this earth. I gave my life to help others how can I be alone? I love God, I know he is there, I pray he will mend my wounds, and the wounds of my household. This has shaken us to the core. How can are families hate us for being Christians? Why are we constantly attacked?

    1. David Liverman says:

      Because you shine. The ones that shine are always prosecuted. God and shining are of one.