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By   •   June 1, 2004   •   Topics:

Q:

I'm single and pregnant and don't know what to do. My boyfriend abandoned me when he found out I was pregnant, and I've never gotten along very well with my parents. I'll probably get an abortion, although I don't want to. Pray I'll do the right thing.


A:

Two wrongs don’t make a right (as the old saying goes), and I pray you won’t compound your problems by making another wrong decision about your future.

Yes, it was wrong for you to get pregnant–but it also would be wrong for you to end the life of the little child who is growing inside you. I know it’s common today to think of abortion as a simple answer to an inconvenient problem–but it is actually a far more serious issue. Your child isn’t simply a mass of tissue; he or she is a human being in God’s eyes. God told Jeremiah, “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart” (Jeremiah 1:5).

What should you do? First, you need wise counsel from someone older than you–someone who can talk with you about your options (including placing your child for adoption). Ask God to lead you to the right person or agency (your pastor may be able to help you). You may also find it helpful to contact Care Net, one of largest networks of pregnancy centers in North America. Care Net seeks to provide the most accessible and effective abortion alternatives possible. For a discussion on the alternatives to an unwanted pregnancy, you may visit Care Net’s website, where there are opportunities to call, email or live chat with someone confidentially.

Then I urge you to turn to God–not just to put this problem into His hands, but to give your whole life to Him. God loves you, and no matter what you’ve done He wants to forgive your past and guide your future. Make your commitment to Christ, and then ask Him to help you do what is right–including mending your relationship with your parents.

Are you in trouble? There is hope. Find peace with God today.

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9 Comments

  1. loykajohm says:

    I think of bad things often and I can’t seem to control my thoughts I need god.

  2. irma says:

    Great answer. God bless as always.

  3. Lynn Throtman says:

    Please cover the issue of child molestation and the pregnancy that may result. What if that girl that was raped or molested does not want to have the baby? I think it is unfair to ask her to have such a child.

    1. BGEA says:

      Hi Lynn,

      Thanks for reaching out. One of the most helpful verses to remember is Psalm 139:13-14: “For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made.” God made man in His own image and values us (Matthew 10:29-31). Even when we can’t understand why something has happened, He is in control. He doesn’t cause evil, but He can bring good out of even the worst circumstances. Romans 8:28 says, “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love Him, who have been called according to His purpose.”

      There are many arguments for abortion: the pregnancy stemmed from a crime or heinous act; the woman isn’t ready for a child; a child is too expensive; the two people involved aren’t married and abortion seems like an easy out. Yet, it’s not about our own rationale; God strongly condemns ending innocent life and two wrongs don’t make a right. In biblical times, people would sacrifice their children to please the gods. Abortion is the same idea – killing children; the children just haven’t been born yet.

      However, we can’t talk about abortion without also saying that God is a God of forgiveness. For those who have already had an abortion, He is ready and willing to set us free and envelop us in His love and mercy. Not only does He forgive, but He cleanses us and doesn’t hold our sins against us (Acts 3:19). We all make mistakes, and we are all in need of His forgiveness.

      For those who have been traumatized by rape, incest or abortion itself, we as Christians should also see that they get whatever help they need.

      You can also check out this link for more questions and answers about abortion: http://bit.ly/Abortion_Questions.

  4. Olusegun Ojedeji says:

    Wow, this is great… And it clearly states the mind of God.

  5. Karen Serra says:

    I’m not sure you’ve accepted Christ as your Lord and Savior but you did ask for prayer and that’s a really good thing. At times like these if your not saved it’s time. You will survive this pregnancy if you have faith in God. You have a mighty warrior on your side in Billy and Franklin Graham. Please don’t abort this child that lives inside of you, he/she is going to be perfect and beautiful and deserves the chance to live a wonderful life with you or an adopted Mommy and Daddy. Get yourself a Bible, take yourself to a local church that’s preaching from the Bible, and if you can’t talk to the Pastor talk to his wife. God will forgive you but don’t make another mistake, it will have lifelong consequences,I should know. Praying for you <3

  6. Gail Davis says:

    I had an abortion at 22-24. I have sadness from this when I see a baby … I was not brought up with my parents but in foster care … The sin of murdering a child never goes away … I know God forgives me, but I also have to realize I am being chastized for what I did. I am now 58 ….

    1. Karen Serra says:

      I’m 59 and it never goes away, does it? Thank God were forgiven!

  7. Marvin Hinkley says:

    What an appropriate answer.