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I have had an abortion and feel so guilty. Can God forgive me?


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God wants to bring peace, forgiveness, and joy to your life—and He will if you will let Him. Anything that separates you from God, including having had an abortion, can be forgiven if you come to Him in true repentance (Ephesians 1:7, Romans 3:25, 1 John 1:7). This is done by confessing your sins to the Lord and pleading the blood of Christ with its power to remove sin and guilt from anyone who asks. There is no question about God’s forgiving, but sometimes we are not willing to confess our sin and commit it to Him for forgiveness.

As we commit the actions of the past to God, we receive peace, comfort, and assurance through Christ. We believe that God, through His Word and the power of His Spirit, can minister peace to you in the midst of your emotional distress; God’s Word offers us the peace that passes all understanding. As you fully commit this problem to the Lord, you will begin a new relationship of hope and comfort in Christ which will assure you that “there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus” (Romans 8:1).

David was deeply distraught about overwhelming conditions in his own life which blurred the sense of God’s presence, but in Psalm 51 he expresses assurance that the joy and fellowship of the Lord have once again become real to him. In other words, he experienced the unfailing love and compassion of God in times when he was plagued with self-condemnation.

After turning a problem over to the Lord, we often pick the problem up once more and agonize over it again and again. Instead, we must decisively choose to leave the matter with Him and put it out of our minds, refusing to think about it or dwell upon it in any way. As God forgives, He also forgets (Hebrews 8:12). When thoughts of guilt come to your mind, say to yourself and God, “Thank you, Lord, for your great forgiveness and mercy. I praise you that you told me to cast this care upon you (1 Peter 5:7), and I have done so. Forgive me for my worry about this matter; with your help, I will praise you instead.”

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67 Comments

  1. Lee Ann Ivie says:

    Thank YOU!

  2. ntswa says:

    who do we confess our sins to? ist enough by kneeling down and confess to god that i have sinned or do i have to confess to the pastor?

    1. Lynn Stepp says:

      You can simply neal down and confess to God.

  3. Sherry says:

    My heart hurts everyday. I had an abortion almost 15 years ago. The morning of the day it happened, I had went to feed the animals and it was pouring rain outside. I went into one of the buildings that had a cement floor to get out of the rain. I walked to the back and when I turned around I saw bare wet little footprints on the cement next to mine. I bent down and felt them, they were very real. There was no one around, just me. Every day I think about this. That it was our Lord giving me a sign, and I turned my back. That afternoon, I went through with the abortion. I love God with all my heart and would love to spend my eternity at his side, but I do not feel worthy of God forgiveness. I am married with a little one now, and I look at my child I think everyday of my blessing that I gave back. My heart is heavy and I may not deserve prayers, but please say one for me. Thank you..

    1. Peggy Strange says:

      I had an abortion and use to feel the way you do now. God will forgive you, all you have to do is confess it to him and leave it at the cross. God will heal you thru a Bible based organization for post abortive women. Please look up one in your area. God does love you and wants you to know this. I have been where you are now, don’t stay there. I am glad I didn’t. God Bless

  4. Nancy says:

    Thank you.

  5. nomkhosi says:

    I find it so hard to forgive myself after aborting my babie,he or she could have been the only babie I was blessed with but I choose to do abortion.I pray that the lord forgives me

  6. Destiny Johnson says:

    If I do anything wrong I will repent my sin to the lord our father that are in haven will forgive me

  7. Destiny Johnson says:

    I like this so much yes this what I am talking about

  8. Brenda says:

    I’ve been a Christian for a long time. I know that God forgives those that ask. But my walk has been haulted. I can’t go any further with this hurried in me. I asked for forgiveness almost 20 years ago but I know that I have not forgiven myself. And I’ve carried all this time just hoping that one day I could find peace. Maybe I’m not seeing correctly, but when I forgive, myself or others, there is always a vision of the path to walk in that forgiveness. But I don’t know how to lay this one down. I had 2 abortions over 20 years ago. And I don’t know how to let go of the guilt and the longing to hold them and tell them I’m sorry. It feels unfinished. It’s not like grieving for another loved one that has died. These 2 innocent babies are not here because I killed them. That’s so hard to say, but its the truth. I technically had my babies murdered. I would protect the children I have with my own life, yet I took the lives of 2. And I don’t know how to allow peace, joy, & comfort in my own life when I stole it from the lives of my 2 babies. At the time it happened, I couldn’t let my heart feel what I was doing or I wouldn’t have done it. I blinded myself. And have been numb to it all these years…. I need spiritual guidance on this one. I have even attended a bible study type class that was to help get through the guilt. But although I participated, it has never been truly dealt with on a spiritual level & lays dormant in my heart because I can’t let it go & be happy….they deserved to be here. They deserved to know their siblings. They belonged here & I took that away. How can I be blessed after doing such a terrible thing. Yet if I don’t find a way, I cannot be what I need to be for my other children & now a grandbaby on the way. Speak something to me please…

    1. rmassie says:

      I relate to your pain. Your post brought me to tears. I myself have had abortions when I was young and stupid. I feel the exact same way, but I will prey for you my sister in God.

    2. ben says:

      God’s timing for things is always perfect…..may not seem perfect for you at the time, but in the end its always when it needs to be. sometimes god wont give you something(even peace of mind) until it falls into his plan for us. He strengthens our faith this way. We just have to keep the faith and submit to his plan. the devil is going to whisper in your ear and tell you that you are a sinner and are not worthy of gods love, but what you have to realize is that we are all born sinners. there is none without sin, the only one whom can make claim to that is Jesus Christ and he shed his blood for all of our sins. god know our sins before we are even born. also note that you may have some forgiving to do also. forgive those who have hurt you in some way. if we ourselves cannot forgive then how can we be forgivin. The fact that this is weighing on your heart should tell you that he is working in your life. keep the faith and god bless

  9. Nick says:

    Charity in Corinthians 5:16 says – From now on, therfore, we regard no one according to the flesh. Even though we once regarded Christ according to the flesh, we regard him thus no longer. Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come. All this is from God, who through Christ reconciled us to himself and gave us the ministry of reconciliation; that is, in Christ God was reconciling the world to himself, not counting their trespasses againt them, and entrusting to us the message of reconciliation. Therefore, we are ambassadors for Christ, God making his appeal through us. We implore you on behalf of Christ, be reconciled to God. For our sake he made him to be sin who knew no sin, so that in him we might become the righteousness of God.

    So Charity I would say that if you love Jesus and serve him. Then have faith that the Lord God our Father loves you enough to forgive you of your sins that Jesus wiped away.

  10. Charity Ogbu says:

    No matter how hard i tried the guilt still comes back but i got relieved wen i read your post can u send more for me