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We tried to raise our daughter to do what's right, but she's gone off the deep end and is living in exactly the opposite way. The strange thing is that she still wants to be close to our family. Should we just overlook the way she's living and pretend it doesn't matter?


Our children don’t always make wise decisions or live the way we know they should, but they’re still our children, and if possible we should do all we can to maintain a relationship with them. Jesus urged us to “be at peace with each other” (Mark 9:50).

Does this mean you ignore what your daughter is doing or keep quiet about your concerns? No, it doesn’t, and the reason is because you love her, and you know from your experience (and from God’s Word) that eventually her sin and rebellion will catch up with her. Right now, she thinks she’s found the road to happiness, but in reality, she hasn’t. Ignoring God’s moral laws and choosing to live only for the pleasures of this life eventually lead to instability and heartache and unhappiness. The Bible’s warning is true: “‘There is no peace,’ says my God, ‘for the wicked'” (Isaiah 57:21).

Be thankful your daughter still wants to share in your family’s life. Far too many in her situation become alienated from their families, and when troubles come, they have nowhere to turn. At the same time, don’t give her the impression that you aren’t concerned about the road she’s traveling—because you are.

You may feel helpless right now, but remember: God is able to do what we parents can’t do. Pray for your daughter, that she’ll see the error of her ways, and most of all, that she’ll turn to Christ and commit her life to Him.

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  1. Patti says:

    My 20 year daughter is in a lesbian relationship. My Husband and I have taken her to church with us all of her life. I feel so helpless. The culture up holds all of this. I told her I love her but I don’t approve of the relationship. She wants to bring her in my house. I let her come a few times but I can not look at the affection. I told her she could come there but I didn’t want to see this. She then has been staying out all night (I guess with her). Told her she had to come at a decent hour or let me know she is not coming home at all. She has just turned it all around and said it was because she was gay. Told her if she couldn’t let me know something she was going to have to move out. She has since left.

  2. Ruth says:

    My daughter is in the same way. She has been to treatment now twice. Praying that God will remove the strongholds on her and return her to His son, Jesus. It has been the most difficult thing to watch her headed down the wrong road.

  3. Julie Tomasello says:

    I’m am deeply concerned for my teenage daughter and need prayers for her to get away from this raving and drug friends and back to God. Feel so helpless. Thank you