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I know God expects us to love everybody, but how can you love people who aren't very loveable? Many in our extended family are coming to our house for the Fourth of July, and I dread it, to be honest. Some of them are simply obnoxious.


It’s true God wants us to love others, even if they aren’t particularly lovable. Jesus said, “Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you. … If you love those who love you, what reward will you get? … Do not even pagans do that?” (Matthew 5:44, 46-47).

The key is to understand that God wants us to treat others the way He has treated us—not because we deserve it, but simply out of His mercy and grace. Are we loveable in God’s sight? Do we deserve His love? No, not at all—not if we’re honest. At best, we’ve ignored Him and treated Him as if He didn’t exist; at worst, we’ve deliberately rebelled against Him and done everything He doesn’t want us to do.

And yet God still loves us! He loves us so much that He sent His Son into the world to give His life for us. God didn’t wait for us to clean up our lives or become perfect; He reached out to us in spite of our sin. The Bible says, “But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us” (Romans 5:8).

As your family gathers, ask God to help you see them through His eyes, and with His love. Pray for them—not only that they won’t be obnoxious, but that they’ll sense Christ’s love through you. In addition, ask God to help you plan activities that will keep them occupied, and even enjoying each other.

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    Praise the Lord Jesus, here i just want to encourage ourselves about dealing with difficult people, we should stand in the Word of God in Mal.4vs6, and surely God will do it for us and we shall testify about it, this verse worked for us at one time so pray using it in Jesus name. Esther.

  2. Rosa Guajardo says:

    My. Daughter in law and I do not get along. In fact we are not on speaking terms. My son and his family live 3ooo+ miles away, it is difficult to treat them with kindness and love, We can only pray that God will change her heart towards us. Its hard on us becauae our son is an only child, and those 2 kids are our only grandkids. We have not seen them in 4 years. At our age we do not need her drama, she can unfriend us, but she is still married into our family, her last name is same as ours. I can only tolerate so much, and then it does not matter anymore. I turn it all over to Christ, leave this burden at the cross. God help us all in Jesus name because difficult relationships brew pain, emotional abusive pain.

  3. David Etheredge says:

    I have a hard time talking to my daughter because we are on opposite sides when it comes to religion and politics. I want so much for her to teach her daughter about Jesus or allow me to. But she does’nt want the Bible talked about in her home or anything that has to do with it. So I am praying and waiting for God to change her heart

  4. Suzanne says:

    I’ve had a hard time with some of my family but I have found the best thing to do is show them that you love them and remember all of us were made in the image of God.