By   •   February 19, 2010   •   Topics: ,


My boyfriend and I just broke up, and it's really crushed me. One reason is because when we started dating we were both convinced God had brought us together, but I guess it wasn't true. Where did I go wrong? Where was God in all this?


God was right where He’d always been: by your side, concerned about you and watching over you. The words of the Psalmist are true: “He will not let your foot slip — he who watches over you will not slumber” (Psalm 121:3).

What am I saying? Simply this: No matter what comes our way, if we know Christ and are walking with Him, nothing can ever happen to us that is outside His perfect plan. Many years ago, as a young man, I too was deeply in love — and (like you) I was convinced God had brought us together. When she ended our relationship, I was heartbroken, and I couldn’t understand why God had let it happen. Only later — when God brought Ruth into my life — did I realize that God had not abandoned me but had led me to the wife of His choice.

Make sure of your commitment to Christ and His will for your life. Then thank Him that He is with you, and if it’s His will for you to marry, that He will guide you to the husband of His choice. In the meantime, learn to be patient and to seek God’s will in everything.

Remember: God’s ways are always best — always. He knows what you’re going through, and He is with you and will help you get through it. But most of all, His plans for you are perfect, so trust Him to lead you “in paths of righteousness for his name’s sake” (Psalm 23:3).

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  1. Grace says:

    This too has happened to me. For 14 years, of trials and tribulations, God has led me and J through it all. I believed God led him into my life for him to be my husband. We took all the right steps and were about to get engaged and then out of nowhere, with no warning, he walked out. It’s been a little over a month and I’m still devastated. I know God has my best interests in mind, I know he holds my future but I’m still heartbroken beyond repair.

  2. AYANDA says:

    At times when we going through rough patch in our-lives we forget that God is always on our side, then we end up doing things in which later we regret them. As for me, I learned that God will never leave me