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By   •   April 15, 2009   •   Topics: ,

Q:

Mother's Day is always a painful time for me, because my mother gave me up for adoption when I was a baby and I never knew her. I'm thankful for my adoptive family, but I still have this hurt inside me, knowing that I'll never know my real mother. Why did God do this to me?


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God understands your feelings—but He also wants to help you overcome them and not be burdened by them. And there’s no better time to begin this process than on Mother’s Day, when we celebrate the gift God has given us of our mothers. After all, without them we wouldn’t even be here.

It’s natural for us to focus on what’s wrong or imperfect about our lives. But is that wise? Often we can’t do anything about them, and we end up carrying that burden with us the rest of our lives. But God doesn’t want us to live that way. He wants us to give our burdens to Him—and then leave them there. The Bible says, “Cast your cares on the Lord and he will sustain you; he will never let the righteous fall” (Psalm 55:22).

Begin by turning your life—and your burdens—over to Jesus Christ and asking Him to come into your life. When you do, you will discover a wonderful truth: God adopts you into His family! You become His child forever, and He is now your Heavenly Father who loves you with an everlasting love.

Then learn the discipline of thankfulness. Instead of focusing on what you don’t have, focus instead on what you do have. Thank God every day for your adoptive parents, and thank God for His love for you. Nothing crowds out our disappointments and fears more forcefully than a thankful heart.

You can be part of God’s family.

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4 Comments

  1. Ann Strait says:

    A child does not have to grow under your heart to be your child. A child can grow in your heart and be just as much yours. My father was a foster child and never had the privilege of being adopted. He was grateful for those foster parents who still loved and nurtured him. God will be our father and mother when our own is not there for what ever reason.

  2. Kathy Lister says:

    Great message

  3. King B. Johnson says:

    We are adopted in the Greatest family there is through the living legacy of Mary Joseph and their adopted Son Yeshua!-) #PlusAnOceanofBelievers!-)

  4. Lorraine C Beck says:

    I’m an adoptive mom of two. I personally believe that it takes more love to give a child up for adoption than to keep the child knowing you are unable to raise it properly. I do believe in what you said, leading a child to Jesus is the most important thing you can do. Thank you for all you do!