By   •   May 14, 2009   •   Topics: ,


Last week, my husband admitted that he's been unfaithful, and it's really crushed me. He says it's over and he wants to rebuild our marriage, but how can I possibly forgive him? Should I even try?


Few sins are as destructive and cruel as the one your husband has committed, and my heart goes out to you. It’s no wonder the Bible says that adultery is “bitter as gall. … Whoever does so destroys himself” (Proverbs 5:4; 6:32).

It may be hard for you to forgive your husband for what he did, but what if you don’t? Instead of forgiving him, what if you allow your hurt and bitterness to keep festering like an angry sore in your mind and heart? You know the answer: Your pain will only grow more intense, and your relationship will be poisoned. To put it another way, your home will become a battleground instead of a place of happiness and peace. Do you honestly want this? I doubt it, in spite of your present feelings.

The fact that your husband admitted his unfaithfulness suggests to me that he is genuinely sorry for what he’s done; otherwise he probably would have just kept quiet. Let his regret be the first step in healing your relationship.

Then ask God to help you forgive him for what he’s done. The key is to realize how God forgave us—not because we deserved it, but because in His grace He loved us and gave His Son for us. The Bible says, “Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you” (Ephesians 4:32). Then ask God to help you rebuild your relationship by putting Christ at the center of your marriage—and your lives.

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  1. Ramon R says:

    That is God for you. His word is perfect in every way. Our refuge our strength and our sword to defeat the enemy. Thanks.

  2. Aleisha says:

    I enjoy reading this. It has open my eyes and I understand so much more.

  3. Hellen says:

    I can identify with this…it is so heart breaking especially because the woman is in the same church with us. I feel so cheated…unfortunately, it feels like my husband is not ready to change. He can look at me and say he loves me…and that tupe of things…pray that God toiches his heart.

  4. lance gray says:

    Thank you LORD for your mercy and grace with out it i would be completely lost

  5. Mary Wiersch says:

    My husband had an emotional affair with an old friend on Facebook and he was talking with women in chat rooms. I have forgiven him and he is sorry. But now I have this fear of getting hurt again. I have prayed about this. But this at times becomes so overwhelming for me. How do I get over this. Thank you

    1. Shannon says:

      I am in the same boat. My husband too had an emotional affair with an old friend through Facebook. I don’t know how to begin to get over it either. If you have found an answer please let me know.

  6. Alciona Rivera says:

    It’s amazing how God uses this ministry. I’m so amazed the way you expose The Truth of God in love, compasion and no compromising at all. I pray The Lord keeps on using BG’ Ministries until the Day of The Lord! Blessings