By   •   October 4, 2010   •   Topics: ,


I tell God every day that I wish He'd just take me on to heaven and not make me stay here any longer. My husband died two years ago and I'm so lonely that all I can think about is being reunited with him in heaven. Am I wrong to feel this way?


God knows your heartache, and it isn’t necessarily wrong to want to cast off the burdens of this life and go on to heaven—which is our true home. The Apostle Paul declared, “I desire to depart and be with Christ, which is better by far” (Philippians 1:23).

But have you ever asked yourself why God hasn’t answered your prayer (at least in the way you wish He would)? The reason may be that He still has a purpose for you down here—something He wants to accomplish through your life. I don’t know what it is, but I urge you to pray about it and ask Him to show you what it is.

I think, for example, of a widow I know who grieved deeply over the death of her husband. But one day she met another widow who also was grieving—and she realized that God could use her to encourage and help this woman. And God continues to use her to bring comfort and hope to others who are grieving—and through this, her own grief has lessened. The Bible tells us to “encourage each other” (1 Thessalonians 4:18).

Thank God every day for the memories you have of your husband. Thank Him, too, for the hope we have of heaven because of Jesus Christ and His death for us. But pray, too, that God will use you to point others to Christ, who alone brings light to our darkness.

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  1. Helen Orsanic says:

    My mother at 87 feels awfully depressed. She had 6 of us and her life was hard. Now she should enjoy the fruits of her labour and she doesn’t.

  2. Karen says:

    Some of us have no one left and had no family to start with. This is very hard.

  3. Barbara says:

    Every day we must find our blessings, and it might just be a few birds outside our window! Find your blessings and BE a blessing to someone unforunate around….volunteering helps, because you help others, you see that you indeed are helping yourself as well!

  4. Gayle bilbrey says:

    I volunteer at an adult day care center and really enjoy it. Try something like that.

  5. Vernell Gibbs says:

    I enjoy the questions and answers. Some give me the answers I am looking for. Thank you for this information.

  6. Mary H. says:

    My husband died 4 months ago(he was a believer). I know God loves me, but why can’t I feel the Lord’s presence? I am also a believer.
    Thank you and God Bless.

  7. sheryl says:

    God bless you and may he fill your is something you could try..go to a store any place pick out a stranger to you one of the cashiers and give them a small gift like a cookie out of one of your pkgs or a doughnut any small thing and it will make there day and yours..or go get you a cup of coffiee at a drive througt and buy the person behind you one…it works..making someones day a little better seems to make yours you GOD bless

  8. Dave says:

    I had to personally put down my best friend, my dog, 2 years ago. I had to get to know and love Jesus to stop me from killing myself.

  9. Dave says:

    Jesus is always with us.

  10. Phyllis says:

    Even though I haven't lost anyone close to me, I think that we all “grieve” just over life in general. i grieve for the state of our country; victims you see on the news; lost souls; all types of things which are hard to think about….even the possibility of something bad happening in the future. Depression is what I call it and it is a real killer; in the aspect that it kills our joy while we are still here. Try more to live in the here and now…take one day at a time and remember that no matter what, GOD loves us!!