By   •   June 15, 2005   •   Topics: ,


I know we should forgive people, but I can't ever forgive my father for what he did to us: physical and emotional abuse, leaving my mother penniless after being repeatedly unfaithful, you name it. He was an evil man, so why should I forgive him? I don't know where he is anyway.


What your father did was very, very wrong, and he has clearly caused you much pain in life. Nor has your pain left you, as your letter makes clear; you still hurt inside because of his wrongdoing.

That’s why the real issue you face is this: How will you get over these hurts from your past? You see, your father’s sin has produced a tragic harvest of anger and bitterness in your soul, and they’re like a poison that will only make you miserable if you don’t get rid of them. Not only will it prevent you from being happy, but it also will harm your relationships. The Bible warns, “See to it … that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many” (Hebrews 12:15).

It isn’t easy to get over the pain of what others did to us, particularly when we were young. But listen: God doesn’t want you to be enslaved by the past! He loves you, and (unlike your earthly father) He wants to help you and bring healing to your heart and mind and soul.

Begin life again by turning to Christ and committing your life–including your hurts–to Him. Then ask Him to help you forgive your father in your heart. No, he doesn’t deserve it–but then we don’t deserve God’s forgiveness, either. Forgiveness isn’t easy, but it will help bring healing to your soul.

Leave a Comment

Your email address will not be published but you will receive our next BGEA ministry update. You can opt out of future emails at any time.

One comment

  1. Elida6 says:

    Iam 49 yrs old and can’t forgive my father for leaving my mother and my brothers & sister’s (7)i promise to myself when i was 15 yrs old he was dead to me,, but know that iam old 49 yrs old,, i want to forgive him and because his on the first stage of alsimers,,, i want to cry for him because i feel bad for him, but at the same time, i can’t help to feel sad about him,, i told Him in my mind that i wanted him to forget about me,, but never like this,, i feel like i hate him for abandoning me, but at the same time i love him so much and miss him so much,, i ask God why?