By   •   October 17, 2007   •   Topics: ,


I've just been diagnosed with an incurable disease that will leave me weaker and in more and more pain as the months go by. Can you give me any reason not to take my own life right now? Not only would it save me from all that suffering, but it would also spare my family. I don't want to be a burden to them.


The greatest burden you could ever place on your family would be for you to take your own life. Their confusion, hurt and guilt would be almost endless (no matter what you told them), for they would constantly wonder what they could have done to prevent such a terrible act, and why you chose to reject their love and concern so decisively.

After all, one of the greatest ways we demonstrate our love for someone is to help them in their times of need—and there is no greater time of need than during their final illness. Don’t deprive your family of that opportunity, and don’t feel that you are only a burden to them. They love you, and these months could be a time when you and your family grow even closer together. Don’t lose sight either of the positive impact your example could make on the young people in your family.

My deepest concern, however, is that you aren’t ready to die—either now or later. Elsewhere in your letter, you admit you have ignored God all your life. But listen: God still loves you and wants you to spend all eternity with Him in heaven. And He has made this possible by sending His Son into the world to take away your sins. Turn to Christ today, for “now is the time of God’s favor, now is the day of salvation” (2 Corinthians 6:2).

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  1. cynthia morrison says:

    I used to watch Billy Graham with my mom all the time.

  2. Darrell Mraz says:

    I posted this in the wrong place.Now I watched my mom die from cancer it was not good. Our Dads heart was broken He struggled for 14 more years with the aid of legal drugs. The only good we could see was the jobs provided to the medical profession. When we can no longer give Praise to the Lord what good are we? We were a Christian family some may argue otherwise.But a drug induced stupor is no way to live for Christ. Nothing worse than to watch suffering like that They both had a good life. Their funeral was almost a more suffering for them or us.If we could have ended it sooner we would have Guy

    1. Robert Card says:

      I am so sorry for your pain. I am just a reader that stumbled upon your note. I too sent a note about this. I lost my beautiful wife of 34 years to a dreadful cancer bout. She loved Jesus and God more than life itself and never complained, but I am devastated to have seen my best friend and wife be tortured this way. I don’t understand. Please let’s help each other stay strong and keep believing even when we don’t understand the way it happened. We still believe in God and that He sent Jesus here to save us from evil. My wife just died this December 16 at 7:15 p.m. I am now alone. I am 62. I will pray for you if you pray for me.