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I know God has forgiven me, but I can't forgive myself for some of the things I've done, and the way I've hurt some of my family. All I can think about is what a bad person I've been. I even wonder sometimes if God hasn't forgiven me after all.


A:

If you have honestly committed your life to Jesus Christ and are trusting Him alone for your salvation, then the Bible says that God has forgiven you — fully and freely. You have been adopted into His family, and nothing can ever change that. The Bible says, “Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus” (Romans 8:1).

Don’t trust your feelings; they aren’t dependable and will only lead you astray. Instead, trust Christ and what He has done for you by His death on the cross and His resurrection from the dead. Trust, too, in God’s promises to you — because God cannot lie, and He has promised to forgive and save all who come to Christ by faith.

In addition, ask God to help you forgive yourself. The memory of what you did in the past condemns you — but it condemns you falsely, because Jesus Christ gave His life for all those sins. The Bible says, “We set our hearts at rest in his presence whenever our hearts condemn us. For God is greater than our hearts” (1 John 3:19-20). If God has forgiven you, shouldn’t you also forgive yourself?

Thank God for His forgiveness — and then ask Him to free you from the past. In addition, if possible go back to those you hurt, and let them know you regret what you did and you hope they’ll forgive you — even as Christ has forgiven you.

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46 Comments

  1. Clifton lawson says:

    I want to be saved and to accept Jesus Christ as my Lord.

    1. BGEA says:

      That’s wonderful news! Someone on our team will follow up with you through email.

  2. Shirley O'Shea says:

    This actually helped me a lot. Thank you.

  3. David (Once Lost) says:

    Thank you for your words of encouragement. Thank you for reminding me of God’s Word.

  4. B says:

    I hurt the only person I love in this world. I don’t think she will forgive me, honestly I wouldn’t blame her if she didn’t. But it hurts so much.

    1. Justin says:

      I’m right with you there. I really betrayed my wife and family just a few days ago. I feel like she’s lost all trust in me and I know it hurts her, and it hurts me more knowing how much she’s done for me and loves me. I just hope she can forgive me as much as God does.

    2. Justin says:

      It also hurts too that I let my children down as much as I did.

    3. Mike says:

      I’m struggling with an addiction. I went so long without incident, but this morning I gave myself over. Now I feel horrible. I feel like I’ll never truly have victory and it breaks my heart.

  5. airstell livingston says:

    I have forgiven everyone that I have hurt along the way and everyone who has hurt me because God has changed my heart and my life. Now it is easy for me to forgive others. Amen.

  6. Lisa says:

    I sincerely needed some direction with forgiving myself even though I know God has forgiven me. Thank you for taking the time to post this particular message. I asked God to help me understand this situation and He laid it on my heart to do a search, which led to your ministry.