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If you ask God to forgive you for something you did to someone, does that mean you also need to ask them for forgiveness? I'm a Christian now, but I'm not sure I can do it. I don't see what difference it would make anyway, except maybe reopen old wounds.


It’s always important to seek the forgiveness of those we’ve hurt, even if it is hard to do. Jesus said that if “your brother or sister has something against you … First go and be reconciled to them” (Matthew 5:23-24).

They may not forgive you, of course; they may reject your attempt or react with renewed anger over what you did, but then it becomes their problem, not yours. You will have done everything you could to let them know you regret what happened, and that you want their forgiveness. That’s what’s important to God. The Bible tells us to “Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone” (Colossians 3:13).

Why is it important to seek the forgiveness of those we’ve hurt? For one thing, it could bring about reconciliation. After all, you were the one at fault; you alone are responsible for the hurt that resulted. But that hurt will only be healed if you seek to heal it (and if the other person responds).

But now that you’ve given your life to Christ, you have another important reason to seek the forgiveness of those you’ve hurt. It’s this: You now have an opportunity to tell them how God has forgiven you — and how He can forgive them also. No matter how much you’ve wronged others, it’s small compared with the wrongs we’ve committed against God. And yet He still loves us, and Christ stands ready to forgive us.

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  1. Patricia Atkins says:

    I ask forgiveness for anything I have done to anyone and repentance as well.

  2. Debbie McDaniel says:

    I am Christian and have wronged someone. I want to make it right between us, and fully will, but my husband can’t understand me needing to do it. He thinks Christ has forgiven me and there is no need to go to the person. How do I help him understand? The person is my ex-husband.

  3. Ken Schumacher says:

    This message came to me just at the right time. Thank You!

  4. Joeendocarditis jr says:

    You brought everything to light and all I have to do is ask for forgiveness now and let’s hope it will lighten the load on these shoulders. I hope me getting a second divorce does not matter. I hope He forgives me. I recognized my mistakes and am willing to be His.

  5. Paul Yenmoro says:

    Thankyou mI have found what I have been lookig for.

  6. maryjane says:

    This is inspiring

  7. Gerald says:

    AMEN -‘God has real unconditional love, and we all should try more of this.

  8. Suzanne says:

    Thank You! I certainly needed this today with the hard broken home I have. Now I will ask my father for forgiveness. God Bless You!