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Q:

I went to my 20th high school class reunion the other day, and it was really depressing to discover how many of my classmates are on their second or third marriages. Why aren't marriages lasting today? My marriage is happy, but I worry about what might happen to our children.


A:

Surely one of our most important responsibilities as parents is to show our children what it means to have a committed and loving marriage. It won’t necessarily keep them from having problems in their own marriages — but it still could do much to help them overcome any difficulties.

Why are so many marriages failing today? I can only answer from my own perspective as a Christian and a minister. I’m convinced one reason is because we no longer see marriage as a commitment — a commitment made to God, as well as to each other. Jesus said, “So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate” (Matthew 19:6).

Another reason marriages are failing today is because we’ve lost sight of what it truly means to love someone. “Love,” for many people, is only an emotion — and when the emotion fades, so too does their relationship. But true love is also an act of the will — a commitment to put the other person first instead of self. The Bible says, “Love is patient, love is kind…. It is not self-seeking” (1 Corinthians 13:4-5).

God gave marriage to us for our happiness and security. But when we leave Him out of the picture, our happiness and security easily fade. Don’t let this happen to you, but commit your life — and your marriage — to Jesus Christ, and build your relationship on Him.

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26 Comments

  1. Michael says:

    I thank Pastor Graham for this wonderful message.If only all of us realized that marriage is a sacred commitment both with our better -half and with God who oversees this relationship, it would be so much better for us. Praise the Lord.

  2. Rebekah says:

    @Randy..I wish my marriage was like the one you described! I'm in my 2nd marriage of 17 years. I have MS and it has greatly affected my marriage! Jesus is the only reason I keep going everyday. My spouse has become verbally and physically abusive

  3. Ben says:

    I believe if at least one of you in the 3 way covenant with the Lord will honor the Lord first and agree in covenant with Him, the Covenant keeper, while continuing to love the other spouse with His love, that God Himself will honor you! Peace

  4. anna says:

    I”ve been married for over 30 years now and I believe that marrying a partner who has a strong relationship with Christ is very important. When we understand and become like minded we function better together.

  5. Joey says:

    I'm 53 and never been married, not by choice, either. I'm a child of divorce, my parents split up when I was only 11. My parents were sadly unequally yoked. Ironically neither one of my parents remarried. Didn't have that good example of marriage.

  6. lIZ says:

    from personal experience i can tesify that when we obey God's commandments to the best of our understanding , He will honor our commitment and abundantly bless our daily lives.

  7. Jack says says:

    MY Wife, Who is in HEAVEN, We were to gather for 54 years, At 20 years old I wanted to get Married, I PRAYED to My Heavenly Father to give me HIS Choice, And I believed it to This very day, WE are Both CHRISTIANS.

  8. Robert says:

    Marriage was created for Him, not for our pleasure. Make your marriage a Godly and Holy marriage. You made a committment to God and to your spouse for better or for worse. Thank God for your blessings and your spouse. God Bless

  9. God's woman says:

    Marriage is until death do we part.This principle is not stressed BY PASTORS. My husband had MS for 15 yrs. The last 7 years of his life, he was completely bedridden, God gave us strength. He loved him through me.PRAISE THE LORD. 55 yrs he went home

  10. Jack says:

    My wife and I both were raised in Christian homes, he father and mother were in Christian work all theire lives. We just passed our sixty first anniversary, and I tell her every day that I love her—and we both keep God first in our lives!!