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Q:

My wife and I have only been married a few years, and we love each other more than ever. But we read about people getting divorced after 20 or 30 years of marriage, and it worries us. What does it take to make a marriage last?


A:

I’m thankful you have a strong relationship now—but I’m especially thankful you realize there could be dangers ahead, and you want to take steps to prevent them. A good marriage doesn’t just happen; it takes work—but it’s worth it.

I could say much about building a strong marriage—but I’ve sometimes summarized them in four simple points that might be easy to remember. Let me repeat them; each begins with the letter “C”.

First, Cherish. God gave you to each other; you are God’s gift to your spouse. Take time to express your love, both by your words and by little acts of thoughtfulness—a surprise gift, a special time away, a favorite dinner. Cherish your wife, and let her know she is important to you.

Second, Communicate. Let each other know what’s going on in your life at home or at work. Don’t clam up; don’t nag or only express yourself when you’re upset. The Bible says, “A word aptly spoken is like apples of gold in settings of silver” (Proverbs 25:11).

Third, Compromise. The greatest enemy of love is our selfishness, but in marriage you can’t always have your own way, so learn to compromise with grace. The Bible says, “Love does not demand its own way” (1 Corinthians 13:5, The Living Bible).

Finally, Christ. Make Christ the center of your lives and your marriage every day, by committing yourself to Him and His will. He is the solid foundation we need—in our lives, and in our marriages.

Christ is the best foundation for your marriage. Invite Him into your life today.

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52 Comments

  1. Mrs Abosede says:

    I really appreciate God for your life,marriage & ministry. I pray that God will continually find you a useful vessel to reach out to people like us who are richly bless by your messages. May you remain relevant in God’s agenda Amen

  2. ifeoma.opiah says:

    Inspiring message straight to the point.Many marriages are really going through a lot of challenges; broken hearts, unfaithfulness, abuse etc. The most painful is where you feel you can receive help you end more hurt that is the church. And this has cause ripple effect in the society .If you don’t have a functional home the effect is a dysfunctional world. More of this teaching Sir, God continue to bless you.

  3. Ursula Darien says:

    Thank you for this. I am going through a difficult time in my marriage, because of my husband’s unfaithfulness. He asks for a divorce, and I thought of death. He is still here, due to prayers, but I still want to die. I am so broken and sad all the time.

    1. Linda says:

      Ursula, I am so sorry you are going through this difficult time. Continue to pray for healing of your marriage, but please remember God created YOU, He loves YOU, He can and will heal your broken heart, regardless of the outcome of our marriage. You can find hope for your future, and God can and will give you a purpose and restore your joy. I was in a similar situation after 20 years of marriage, and left to raise two teen daughters. But even at age 60, God brought love again into my life with a wonderful Christian man. Now each day we praise God together. Never give up. God promises to be with you. I’m praying for you.

  4. Meseret says:

    God bless you!!!!

  5. Luann Overby says:

    This segment was great! Look forward to receiving more great teachings!

  6. Esosa Ighodaro says:

    I have been so refreshed by the words of wisdom given by God’s general, Pa Billy Graham. More grace sir!

  7. Robert Binega says:

    Thanks very much for the words of wisdom and inspiration, may God Almighty keeps them ringing in our hearts and relationship.
    May God Almighty bless, amen.

  8. Judy says:

    Wonderful article – engaged couples need to read and apply to have a happy healthy marriage

  9. Belinda Mitchell says:

    I am a Christian divorced after 42 years of marriage. I found out through a text of my husbands affair with another woman. Many lives not just ours have affected by what has happened and changed forever. I am 63 and alone. God has gotten me through this life changing event and a broken heart.

  10. PRIYANKA says:

    AWESOME ARTICLE…