When Christmas is Hard

By   •   December 7, 2012

In the middle of the “most wonderful time of the year,” many of you are facing a dilemma or difficulty. You may have a strained relationship with one or multiple family members. Perhaps you’re lonely or grieving a loss and the holidays are particularly painful for you. Or, this is the busiest time of the year and you dread the rat race that often accompanies this season.

Whatever the case may be, we want to provide you with resources to help guide you through this season’s difficulties in a biblical way. Below, you will find some family- and holiday-related questions people have asked Billy Graham over the years, along with his answers.

Help the Lonely
This Christmas was very hard for me. Most of my relatives are gone now (including my husband), and the few I do have are either too old or live too far away, so I was completely alone. Please tell people to reach out to lonely people during holidays, because it’s hard for them.
Be a friend »

Can’t Afford Gifts
My husband lost his job recently and we really can’t afford to give people as much for Christmas this year as we have in the past. But I’m afraid we’ll offend them if we cut back too much. I know this isn’t a spiritual question, but how should we handle this? 
Don’t go into debt »

Hectic Holidays
I know Christmas is still some weeks away, but I’m already getting uptight about it. It’s always such a hectic time and we always end up spending far more than we planned to. To be honest, I don’t really enjoy Christmas any more, although I know I ought to. Any suggestions?
Make Christmas meaningful »

Wayward Children
Our son will be coming home from college for the Christmas holidays, and the last time he was here he let it be known that he didn’t believe in God like he used to. We ended up in a big argument because we couldn’t answer his questions, but we don’t want that to happen again.
Show the love of Christ »

Influence Neighbors for Christ
Our neighbors really get into Christmas in a big way—lots of decorating, parties, expensive gifts and so forth. But to them it’s just a time to have family fun, with no religious meaning. How can we get them thinking about the real meaning of Christmas?
Pray for them »

Teach Children the Real Meaning of Christmas
Our two children are getting very excited about Christmas right now (which is understandable, of course). But how can we help them also see the real meaning of Christmas, without sounding like we’re against all the things that excite them about the holidays?
Start today »

Overcome Family Disagreements
Many years ago, my sister and I had a sharp disagreement about something and haven’t talked to each other since. But recently I realized this wasn’t the way God wanted me to act, and since then I’ve tried to reach out to her (without success). My Christmas card to her even came back unopened and refused. Should I just give up?
Hope for change »

Holiday Time Demands From Family
Christmas is still months away but I’m already dreading it. The problem is that we never get to have our own Christmas as a family, because our relatives insist we spend the entire time with them. I’m exhausted by the time we get through with all the travel and emotional tensions. I don’t see any way to break this cycle, but maybe you have some ideas.
Plan carefully »

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  1. Pat says:

    Atheism in the U.S. is gaining ground, thanks to We Silent Christians. We need to stand firm in our Belief, and be More Vocal. When a Store Worker tells you “Season's Greetings,” tell them:”MERRY CHRISTMAS.” DON'T HIDE YOUR LOVE FOR JESUS.

  2. sheila says:

    Dr. Graham, Thank you for your dedication to Our Lord Jesus Christ, you are a perfect example of being a child of God, and in this world as hard as things may get, you are a shining light that a life with Christ IS possible, God bless

  3. Marilyn says:

    Dear Man of God,You and your precious Ruth have been blessings to our family. Thank you for ever sacrifice you and yours have made. With respect, awe, and love,The Clark Family from DeArmanville, AL

  4. Ivy says:

    This is for Marilyn, your husband left you and your son, its very heartrending, but keep the faith. You and your son are not alone. You have the best company of all, you have JESUS…Many BLESSINGS.

  5. Patrick says:

    Merry Christmas Dr. Reverend Billy Graham and family. Jesus' birth brings us gentleness, joy and love.  Not that we loved God, but that God the Father wants to show us what true love is and how we are to love  others. 1John 4:9-13,19 (John 3:16)

  6. Marilyn says:

    my husband left us, and gives us no money, and our son, is autistic and we have nobody else. he is 27 he wants car brochures from car lots. while his dad is out taking women on trips.it is so sad.

  7. John says:

    Man of God ,Thanks you so munch for wonderful Job you done our Lord may bless you all of your life .you bless to all Nations who know Our lord Thanks you alot

  8. John says:

    I am alone for Christmas with no family and all my friends are busy…but I alway remember I am not alone with Jesus in my heart and celebrate the day with pure happiness…for one is never alone…and what a day by yourself to reflec.

  9. Dora says:

    I am a Christan,my only son passed I august,my brother passed in January,now my only sibling another brother is in hospice care at his home,with God and his son Jesus i will make this year of loss ok I Can Do All Things Through God Who Strengthens Me.

  10. Ian says:

    It could be very inspiring for people on Christmas Day to invite the Lord into their homes and lives on that special occasion. If the Lord would speak to them then, it would be a particularly memorable day.