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My wife won't have anything to do with church or God. I can't even talk with her about it or she gets upset. She lets me go my own way (I'm very active in my own church) but that's about it. I know it's usually husbands who act like this, but not in our family. Why is she like this?


People have all sorts of “reasons” for turning against God — rebellion against their parents’ faith, a bad church experience, intellectual questions and doubts, and so forth. Often, I’ve found, they don’t even know why they refuse to believe. They’re like the Pharaoh in Moses’ time, who “hardened his heart and would not listen” (Exodus 8:15).

What can you do? First, don’t argue with your wife or try to get her to change her attitude; it probably would only make things worse. Instead, love her and pray for her — constantly, fervently and trustingly. God is able to do what you can’t do, piercing her defenses by His Spirit and opening her eyes to her need of Christ.

In addition, ask God to help you be a witness to your wife of Christ’s love and truth by the way you live. She may scorn your beliefs and mock your faith, but she can’t deny the life-changing power of the Gospel in your life. Jesus said, “By their fruit you will recognize them” (Matthew 7:20).

Finally, don’t let her negative attitudes affect you. Instead, let them challenge you to an even greater love for Christ and His plan for your life. If you have children, do all you can to encourage them to put their faith in Christ and make Him the foundation of their lives. God’s promise is for you: “To the faithful you show yourself faithful” (Psalm 18:25).

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  1. Lisa says:

    I have been praying for my husband to accept Christ since we have been married. I thought with my cancer he would maybe change his mind. He recently lost his job, so I asked him to go to church with me. He said he just cant. I don’t stop praying for him. I ask God to please help my family through this difficult situation.

  2. Cindy Meyer says:

    I cling to the 1Cor7:14 scripture for 26 years, still praying and hoping. AMEN!

  3. Joel says:

    Paul writes in 1 Corinthians 7:14 “For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband.”
    Have faith in the Lord for he is just and kind and will provide a way for all.
    God Bless

  4. Sue says:

    My Grandparents were married for 56 yrs. and my Grandmother was active in the church but my Grandfather didn’t go, so she prayed for him for 45 yrs. and then my Grandfather changed his way and became a member of the church, saved and born again, and was also a trustee. It may take some time but don’t stop praying and God will answer your prayers.

  5. Lucky says:

    i want to marry a lady that had a child for me out of wedlock but she is a devoted catholic and I’m Pentecostal, though she promise to start attending my church after the wedding but i sense that her family may have influence on her on her devoted faith which i will not consent while she is in my house. Since i knew God more i have decided that it is going to be bed undefiled till we do the right things. Pls i need your advice on this matter, thank you.

    1. Brandi says:

      Lucky you sound like someone filled with pride, I pray God will open your eyes to what you have wrote and just how wrong your perspective is. do you really think that is what Jesus answer would be? Just keep praying for her and leave it in Jesus hands, if you love her and she has a child for you it shouldn’t matter what church she attends Love endures all things.

  6. Diana luk says:

    I agree. We just try our best, and God will do the rest. I witness cases around me, that people come to accept Christ out of my surprise .