From the writings of the Rev. Billy Graham
The unjust condemnation of others has a boomerang effect. We hurl vindictive indictments with the hope of crippling others, but, alas, we discover that we are hurt more than they are. This generation is quick with the deadly thrust. The harsh criticism of others and unfair appraisals of those about us may hurt them, but it hurts us more.
Many people go through their entire lives with a chip on their shoulder, carrying hurts and resentments over things that were said or done decades ago. Others are conflicted today because they are driven away by their own bitterness and harsh words to those who may also need a kind word. Like a poison, their bitterness has made not only their own lives miserable but also the lives of those around them. They have never learned the secret of forgiveness and forbearance.
We must be on guard, as the Bible instructs in Hebrews 12:15, “lest any root of bitterness springing up [can] cause trouble.” Meekness and forbearance are “musts” if we are to live harmoniously in society and develop healthy homes, families, and friendships. While Christians must always speak the truth, we must do it in love. The Bible tells us to “Speak evil of no one, [be] peaceable, gentle, showing all humility to all” (Titus 3:2).
(This column is based on the words and writings of the late Rev. Billy Graham.)