By   •   January 12, 2012   •   Topics:


A few months ago, my nephew died in a car wreck, and it's really been hard for us to understand. He had a promising life ahead of him, and it just doesn't make any sense. Why do good people have to die? Some friends at the funeral told me God must have needed him in heaven, but that just upset me.


No doubt your friends were well-intentioned and were trying to comfort you — but comments like this usually don’t help, and often it’s better just to let people know we care about them and share their grief. (In any case, a comment like this isn’t supported by the Bible.)

I wish I had a full answer to your question — but I don’t. I have asked it hundreds — maybe thousands — of times during my lifetime, often after learning of the kind of sudden tragedy that took your nephew’s life. Someday in heaven we will understand — but not now. What we do know is that we live in an evil, sin-sick world — and one of life’s realities is that tragedy is never far from us.

But we also know an even greater truth: Jesus Christ came into the world to give us hope. Because of His death and resurrection we know that this life is not all there is, and ahead of us is the hope of heaven when we know Him. Sin separates us from God — but by His death and resurrection Jesus Christ took away our sins and has opened heaven’s door for us.

May God draw you closer to Himself during these days — even if you can’t understand why this tragedy happened, Jesus’ words are for you: “Do not let your hearts be troubled. Trust in God; trust also in me” (John 14:1).

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  1. PAM says:

    My nephew Drew died five months ago. It is hard on us. Died in car accident

    1. BGEA says:

      Hi Pam,

      We are so sorry about Drew. Praying for you and your family today.

  2. lewis makowa says:

    God is all knowing

  3. barry says:

    This world is like a melting pot. The good passes through, sometimes very quickly where as the impure remains. With the passing of the good a great many positive memories remain that can encourage even those of bad heart. Nothing is ever lost

  4. Hannah says:

    When good people leave this earth I have to believe God is using them in heaven. Sometimes it is to leave an example behind for others to follow. I have heard of families repenting because of a loved one of Christ dying. For Gods glory amen…

  5. Lilly says:

    Lilly says We lost our 17 year old boy while playing in school and he was so perfect among his friends and in church and even for us, good and talented also he doesn't have any sickness also, but we know that many heard gospel after his death

  6. Cheryl says:

    We lost our 19 yr old daughter to a tragedy in 2010. She was strongest Christian young lady I've ever known. Since her passing we have seen the impact her life has had on so many for Christ. We know God had His reasons. Still miss her so much.