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What do you think about falling in love over the Internet? I've gotten very involved with a man through a chat room I'm on, and he says he thinks he loves me, and I think I love him. Now he wants me to come visit him (he's in another part of the country), but my parents are saying no.


Elsewhere in your letter, you admit that this person hasn’t revealed very much about himself or his background, even when you’ve asked him—and that alone should be a big red flag, warning you to back away.

In other words, my advice would be to end this relationship now—clearly and decisively—and not let it go any further. The risks and dangers are simply too great. Your parents are wise to be concerned; they love you, and they don’t want you to be misled or hurt. I know you may not agree with them right now, but later on you’ll be grateful for their wisdom. The Bible says, “He who listens to a life-giving rebuke will be at home among the wise” (Proverbs 15:31).

The most important advice I can give you, however, is to commit your life to Jesus Christ and trust your future into His hands. He loves you and knows what is best for you (even more than your parents do), and He can be trusted to guide you. He knows your needs, and you can trust Him to lead you into relationships that are both healthy and honoring to God.

The Internet has changed our world—often for good, but sometimes for evil. The problem isn’t the technology, however; the problem is the human heart, and the fact that evil men can use the Internet to exploit others. Don’t let this happen to you.

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  1. Dianne Rhinesmith says:

    I understand when your young and inexperienced in life not to pick up men on the internet, there are a lot of predators out there. It’s a crazy world and you can trust no one. I did meet my fiancé online in a virtual world game I was exploring. We were friends and after about a year we fell in love. We met after about 1.7yrs and there was no turning back. He is a wonderful person and I love him dearly. We praise God that he used that medium to have us meet. We were both in our 50’s so very much more rational then a young person, no rose colored glasses.

  2. Dorothy Kettle says:

    I strongly feel that you and your son, Franklin are a huge portion of the hope for world peace. Praying that God will provide the will and the way to turn evil into good. Thank you for your simple message of faith.

  3. yisa Elizabeth says:

    Sometimes as I have learnt, we honestly don’t want the response we get because we feel we are only ones that understand what we going through. However as an advice I am asking you, have you talked to God about it and what does he have to say.

  4. Sekamweme says:

    May God bless you servant of God. I glorify my God to you that you accepted to a tool of God.

  5. Diane McCarson says:

    I feel it’s so important to be knowledge of the Lord and awareness of the world we live in now I saw you 3 times growing up you are an inspiration to me and I totally respect to your truthful insight thank you for sharing and for adding me to this message may the Lord bless you always”

  6. Femie Myers says:

    I agree on some part of this answer. I met my husband online and we we now married for almost 8 years but because we are both christian and communicated for more than 4 years we able to survive the long distant relationship through prayer and being honest with each other. When we got married no big suprises but there still some adjustment. I wont recommend but through prayers and guidance of the Holy Spirit it is possible

  7. Karon Page says:

    I don’t think that anyone can truly fall in love when they do not know the person. The only way they can do that is in person. How the act, how they treat you. You just can not know the person and he can’t know you unless you experience the trust of the moment. And Jesus can do that for you if you turn your soul and heart over to him. He loves us unconditionally and he will let you know what person is for you!!! Trust in the Lord. I have been married 35 years and he will never lead down the wrong path.