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My mother was always an angry, critical person who never got along with anyone, and while I was growing up I vowed I'd never be like her. But now I find that sometimes I'm just like she was, and it alarms me because I don't want to be that way. What's wrong with me?


I’m thankful you realize what is happening to you — because if you didn’t, there wouldn’t be much hope that you’d ever change.

In fact, you’d probably only get worse and worse. But God doesn’t want you to be a captive to the past — and He certainly doesn’t want you to be an angry, critical person the way your mother was. And you don’t need to be that way, because God wants to come into your life and change you. He wants to help you get rid of things that are bad and replace them with things that are good.

The Bible says, “The fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control” (Galatians 5:22-23). Begin by making a new start — with Jesus Christ. Tell Him that you know these bad things are wrong, and you can’t conquer them on your own. Then ask Him to come into your life, to forgive your sins and begin changing you from within by the power of His Holy Spirit.

Ask God to help you learn to deal with problems in a mature and Godly way. Your mother dealt with problems by lashing out in anger — and as a result, you never learned how to handle them. But God has a better way for you. Learn it from others, and most of all learn it from God’s Word, the Bible.

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  1. Lisa Burkholder says:

    I know the fruits of the spirit. I know anger is a sin….it just took this message to connect them. Thank you for the reminder to go to God in prayer. Lord, please help me with my anger. Please give me peace and grace to pour out on my children. I love you. Amen.

  2. Fengchi says:

    If you want to move forward, you will need to forgive the past.

  3. Junny. says:

    Thank you very much for the answers on anger coz I have a very bad habit with anger. I have asked the Lord to help me. Looking forward to be a changed new person from anger.

  4. clendon newsom says:

    My mother abused me , physically and emotionally, today in my old age I am still trying to overcome all the hurt I suffered by her. I find it hard to forgive her, but I am trying to understand and forgive her.

  5. Aileen rivera says:

    Billy God bless you, as a christian i have many anger and bitterness in my marriage,my finances and my poor health. How can this happen i go to church and God has change me in a positive way i love the lord and im faithful but when things go wrong i dont want to pray all i do is cry and be miserable. Thank you for the advise you give to many who are angry i will pray that God will change me. God bless you.

  6. Gary Adam Padilla says:

    I will pray for you.God Bless

  7. Marilyn Hooton says:

    thank you

  8. Gillian says:

    My mother was young in London during the Battle of Britain. She had anger from her life during the war. I want her to get saved. My mother is going to be 97 in October..

  9. TexasGirllovesGod says:

    This is so true. God, please help me to replace that anger and rage which my parents lived with daily and replace it with your love, your knowledge, your truth. Help me to get to the root causes of my anger and give them over to Jesus. In Jesus Name, I pray, amen.

  10. Logan says:

    Please help me will my anger,,