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By   •   December 8, 2004   •   Topics: ,

Q:

My husband has just been sentenced to prison for several years, and this has been the hardest time of our lives. My friends say I ought to forget him and get on with my life, but I still love him, and he says he still loves me. What would you advise me to do?


A:

I strongly urge you not only to maintain your marriage, but also to make it grow even stronger during this difficult time. That may sound impossible—but with God’s help, it can happen.

Why do I say this? One reason is because God gave your marriage to you, and you both made a vow to Him that you would be faithful to each other no matter what happened. Yes, I know divorce is very common today; hardly a family is untouched by it. But God’s perfect plan for marriage hasn’t changed: “Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate” (Mark 10:9).

But another reason I hope you will keep your marriage intact is because your husband needs you more than ever right now. No, you can’t be together (although I hope you will write and visit as much as possible). But he needs your encouragement, and he needs to know you care. Some of the saddest letters I receive are from prisoners whose spouses or families have rejected them.

Most of all, I pray that this will be a time when you both draw closer to God. You don’t mention your husband’s crime—but no matter what it was, God still loves him, and Christ stands ready to forgive him. Pray for your husband, and make Christ the center of your life as well.

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  1. Bernadette Darden says:

    Thank you so much for those encouraging words. My husband has been incarcerated for 10 years now and nothing but God has sustained both of us. He always tells me how much he loves God, who lives within me. I always keep him encouraged and we fast and pray together often. My Husband Clifford is a great man. He has always treated me respectfully and lovingly. I pray you will kept us lifted up. I know the God I serve is working miracles and chains have been broken. Release, Release, Release. Thank you Jesus!