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I know I've messed up my life, but I don't want to make things worse. My boyfriend is demanding I get an abortion, but I don't want to. The reason he gives me is that he claims the Bible says children who are born out of wedlock can't ever go to heaven. Is he right?


No, he is not right. Not one verse in the Bible supports what he says–and to be frank, I suspect he is only claiming this because he wants to persuade you to end your pregnancy.

But two wrongs do not make a right. Yes, it was wrong for you to have sexual relations outside of marriage–but it would also be wrong for you to end the life of the unborn child who is growing within you. I know many today would not agree because they contend a fetus is not a child. But the Bible does not support this. God told Jeremiah, “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart” (Jeremiah 1:5).

How can you get on the right road? Begin by turning your life over to the One who gave it to you. God made you, and God loves you–and because He loves you, He doesn’t want you to go through life making one mistake after another. By a simple step of faith ask Christ to come into your life, and then commit your future to Him.

Then seek God’s help for the hard decisions you face. Only He can give you the wisdom and courage you need to do what is right and turn from what is wrong. God has a better life for you, for “no good thing does he withhold from those whose walk is blameless” (Psalm 84:11).

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  1. Kimiko Young says:

    I study what ever you send me, as long as it come from the true Bible of Jesus Christ God.

  2. Michael Martinez says:

    Deuteronomy 23:2

  3. Victoria says:

    I left home 2009 and know I’m. Regret it but I see my real self when I am with my family

  4. Kermit Todd says:

    I came home one day and my girlfriend at the time told me she was going to have a baby,am 50 and never had kids,we went to the doctor and he told us to prepare ourselves cause she was going to have a miscarriage,i told to the doctor I didn’t want to hear it so I went to my truck and I prayed to God my not to let me lose my baby my life for her’s today I have a Beautiful healthy 4 month old girl,me and her mom no longer together but am in my daughters life and I want to bring her up in God,she has change my life meaning,am one happy dad,

  5. Obed Ondara says:


  6. Jake says:

    Very good answer Mr. Graham

  7. John Plaster says:

    His blood is sufficient!

  8. Zo truth says:

    Deuteronomy 23:2 – A bastard shall not enter into the congregation of the LORD; even to his tenth generation shall he not enter into the congregation of the LORD.

    Listen to your man he is wise, I just hope I’m not to late

    1. Blessed2bee says:

      To God be the glory. Trust God and know that all have fallen short of the glory of God. If not why would we even need a Savior…..LOL to those who believe that “SOME” sins aren’t covered by the blood of Our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ….Read it for yourself…. There is “NOTHING” that can separate us from His love… Look up the PROMISES because the curse went back to hell where it belongs… have a Great Life and a healthy BLESSED baby…

    2. Kristen says:

      That means her “man” should be a man and marry her before the baby is born not ask her to murder her child.

    3. Patty says:

      That was before Jesus came to forgive all sins.

  9. Sheryal Stphens says:

    This is the Best Answer I ever heard.

    1. Gracious says:

      The verse in which your boyfriend is referring to is in the Old Testament (deuteronomy) before Christ / resurrection. Truly you will be forgiven if you become saved And repent to The Lord. I also had trouble with this same situation and I am now a blessed mother of an almost 2 year old.