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I've always been extremely shy, and I try to avoid people I don't know. I became a Christian a couple of years ago, but I can't face going to church. I know you'll say I ought to start going, but I can't help how I feel, can I?


One of the Bible’s greatest truths is that when we turn in faith to Christ, God forgives us and accepts us just as we are.

In other words, we don’t have to become perfect before He’ll accept us, nor do we have to get rid of all our faults before He’ll welcome us into His family. The Bible says, “But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us” (Romans 5:8). God knows what we are like, and He loves us just as we are. Thank Him for this truth!

But once we come to Christ, God has a plan for us—and His plan is that we would become more like Christ. In other words, God doesn’t want us to remain spiritual infants (which is what we are when we first come to Christ). God wants us to become spiritually mature and strong in our faith. The Bible says, “Like newborn babies, crave pure spiritual milk, so that by it you may grow up in your salvation” (1 Peter 2:2).

How does this happen? One of the ways God has given us to grow spiritually is through fellowship with other believers. And that’s why I hope you can find ways to overcome your shyness, and little-by-little become connected with other Christians. The Christmas season would be a good time to do this, incidentally; many churches have special programs that attract visitors, and you can attend them without feeling embarrassed.

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  1. Jeff says:

    I also have issues with shyness. I was googling for others who have this problem and came across this web site. I had also read 2Timothy 1:7 and wondered if there were something horribly wrong with me spiritually. I’ve been shy since I can remember. Folks who are not shy will never understand. My shyness makes other people understandably uncomfortable. It’s a horrible burden that cannot be just fixed by quoting a verse that says God didn’t make me this way. As far as I know; I didn’t make me this way either.

  2. Michael McDaniel says:

    I’ve been shy all my life and thru the years I’ve learned to accept being shy. There is absolutely nothing wrong w/ being shy. One of the misconceptions about shy people is that can’t be effective witnesses
    and that is not true. If you’re shy, accept it and don’t listen to the haters.

  3. Lera says:

    I’ve learned that there is everything wrong with being shy if you’re a christain. 2Timothy 1:7 reads “God has not given us the spirit of timidity (shyness. Lack of; confidence, bravery, self-assurance, courage) but He gave us a spirit of power, love and self control”. Shyness is birthed out of fear and fear is the oposite of faith. Faith comes by hearing and hearing by the word. Ask the Spirit of God to fill you. Read scripture about fear of man (shyness). You will overcome.

    1. jennifer says:

      I don’t think that a person’s shyness is wrong but it may need to be worked on in order to to socialize with others and to build relationships. I think that stepping out in faith even though you are scared is important. I would hate to judge others if they are shy. I think everyone has a lot of work to do on themselves. I think that its important to remember that God is no respecter of person’s and that we need to fear God and not man.