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Q:

My cousin had very serious emotional problems most of her life, and finally they overwhelmed her and she committed suicide. I firmly believe she was a Christian, but did she lose her salvation by doing this? Is suicide the unpardonable sin?


A:

Whenever I answer a question like this, I’m deeply aware that someone may be reading this who is seriously contemplating suicide—and I would do everything in my power to convince them not to take that final, drastic step. With Christ there is always hope.

God loves them; He loves them so much that Jesus Christ was willing to die on the cross for their salvation. And others care about them, as well (even if they have a hard time believing it). Suicide is never God’s will, and even in the midst of life’s worst storms we can look to Christ and discover that He truly is “an anchor for the soul, firm and secure” (Hebrews 6:19). The first step back from the brink of suicide is to turn to Christ and open our hearts to Him.

Suicide is always a tragedy—but in itself it is not the unpardonable sin. The only sin God cannot pardon is the sin of rejecting Him. God knew your cousin’s heart, and He also knows that mental illness sometimes clouds a person’s judgment so much that they aren’t fully responsible for their actions.

At the same time, ask God to help you be sensitive to the needs of others—especially someone who may be facing discouragement or depression. Often simply knowing that someone cares will help them turn the corner.

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181 Comments

  1. Ray bensing.sr says:

    Only God has the authority to take lives. If we do it, it is a sin!
    Brother Ray

  2. Phil says:

    My mom died on February 1 this year and my younger brother died (of unrelated issues) on February 3rd. Now I’m heading into a bitter estate battle with an estranged family member who didn’t show up until after I handled all the details of the funerals. I’ve battled clinical depression all my life but at 63 I’m so tired of a life with constant disappointment, disillusionment, hurt and unfairness. A friend of mine says when he first accepted Jesus Christ he challenged the Lord by saying he wanted EVERYTHING to change in his life-and his prayers were answered. All I want is to feel real JOY and PEACE for once in my life. Jesus knew utter despair and loneliness, he knows what many of us feel on a daily basis. Where is the deliverance?

    1. Sherri Rushing says:

      Bro Phil please be encouraged. In times like what you are going through, we must fight with all our might. Or at least what we can muster up, to lean totally on God. Romans 8:28 says: All things work together for good to them that love the Lord. To them that are called according to His purpose. This bitter battle, these feelings of despair? Are in God’s power to make turn around for your good! Will you trust Him by giving Him all your problems? Lay them at His feet. Leave them there. Ephesians 3:20 says: God is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all we could ask or think, according to the power that worketh in us. God’s got you. He wants to give you peace. All of Psalms 23 affirms this. I am praying for you. Please read these scriptures.

  3. Paulina says:

    I am affirmed by these words. Never thought I’d come truly to these thoughts. It’s a hard time in (my) life. I’ve had so many people die tragically either from suicide or drug overdose. I wonder if God’s truest are the ones who have left us.

  4. Charles says:

    My heart is absolutely broken and my marriage seems like it is at an end. I spend most nights praying that I will be “caught up” to heaven to be with Jesus. That way I don’t have to die. I need serious prayer. I have a church family, but I don’t want anybody to know about this.

    1. Thomas says:

      Charles, I can relate. Keep praying and talk to God about how you feel.

    2. Mary says:

      I spend many nights wishing God would bring me home. I am in a verbally and physically abusive relationship. The only thing that keeps me going is my 9 year old beautiful son and the fear of not going to heaven. I feel so empty even with my faith. I feel like no one on this earth cares if I live or die, except for my son. Would he forgive me? Would God? I wish the answer was yes. I can’t bear the pain and antidepressants don’t help.

    3. Karen says:

      Charles, you have to make a conscious effort to change your mindset. It’s not easy to change old habits, but they can be changed. Try to research power of the subconscious mind. God gave us EVERYTHING that we need to survive in this wicked world, but we must put our trust and faith in him to utilize His tools. Who else will give their ONLY son so that we can be saved? Satan’s job is to keep you in the state of mind you’re currently in- hopeless, but God gave us hope through his son, Jesus Christ. Your tongue is powerful- speak joy, peace, and happiness into your life. Try not to speak too much about what’s wrong, but counter act by speaking positive. Love you.

    4. Ashley says:

      You are in my prayers, brother.

  5. Chris Knitter says:

    For those of you struggling there is hope. Always. I have been in the deepest depression in the past. But I truly believe it was the prayers of others and by God’s grace I did not take my own life as a teen. These moments of difficulty define us the most. And I find myself 30 years later reaching out to you. There is hope in Christ. Seek and you will find him. I never thought anyone could love me because I did not love myself. At 48 I am happily married with 3 beautiful children. I thank God every chance I get, that I did not end my life all those years ago.

  6. Susan Larrick says:

    Just struggling

    1. Carla Crabb says:

      Prayers are sent your way! Feel the breeze and breathe😇

  7. R says:

    Thank you for helping me understand

  8. Kevin says:

    My sister in law committed suicide in 2009 on Easter Sunday. Till about two years ago my wife wanted NOTHING to do with Easter it just hurt to much. She now attends Sunday Service it still hurts both of us but we need to remember that Christ gave up his life for Us. And our Salvation.

  9. Gregory says:

    Suicide is a sin, and once you have chosen to take your life you can not receive forgiveness because you are not able to Repent. Repentance means to change, or to have a change of heart, You cannot change if you are dead.

    1. cal says:

      Correct, no suicides in heaven.

  10. Erika says:

    Please God help me. I love you. Where I am now is not your doing. The thoughts, my life, everything is because of decisions I have made. Not you. I want peace please help me and forgive me of my sins. Please.

    1. William Martin says:

      Erika, your prayer touched me. I feel the same way. It was in my mind but I could put into words. Your words described my life but I didn’t know how to express it. Thank you and God bless You. These words, I will use them in prayer every day.

    2. Carla Crabb says:

      Erika, you are loved by many especially God who sent His Son to the cross. Even if you were the only one sinner Jesus loves you so much He went to Calvary. Absolutely nothing can separate you from His love. I lived your life for a long time until all I had was God and I clinged to Him in the darkest seasons and He always was faithful and yanked me right out of the pit to His truth and set me free! Praying for God to heal you deeply emotionally, mentally, physically (exhaustion) and spiritually, removing all strongholds anointing you with His healing balm, bringing you to a New Beginning blessed in abundance with spiritual gifts and treasures to bring you to all He created you to be and fulfilling His plan and purpose in your life!

    3. Karen says:

      God will forgive and restore peace, happiness, and your life. Restoration doesn’t happen over night, but joy will come in the morning.