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Q:

My cousin had very serious emotional problems most of her life, and finally they overwhelmed her and she committed suicide. I firmly believe she was a Christian, but did she lose her salvation by doing this? Is suicide the unpardonable sin?


A:

Whenever I answer a question like this, I’m deeply aware that someone may be reading this who is seriously contemplating suicide—and I would do everything in my power to convince them not to take that final, drastic step. With Christ there is always hope.

God loves them; He loves them so much that Jesus Christ was willing to die on the cross for their salvation. And others care about them, as well (even if they have a hard time believing it). Suicide is never God’s will, and even in the midst of life’s worst storms we can look to Christ and discover that He truly is “an anchor for the soul, firm and secure” (Hebrews 6:19). The first step back from the brink of suicide is to turn to Christ and open our hearts to Him.

Suicide is always a tragedy—but in itself it is not the unpardonable sin. The only sin God cannot pardon is the sin of rejecting Him. God knew your cousin’s heart, and He also knows that mental illness sometimes clouds a person’s judgment so much that they aren’t fully responsible for their actions.

At the same time, ask God to help you be sensitive to the needs of others—especially someone who may be facing discouragement or depression. Often simply knowing that someone cares will help them turn the corner.

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  1. Toby says:

    Please anyone reading this should pray for me cause I’m about to lose everything I have, and once I do I’ll definitely attempt suicide. I’ve prayed and prayed but everything seems to be going downhill continuously. Pray for me

    1. BGEA says:

      Hi Toby,

      We are very concerned that you have considered suicide, and we urge you not to take this drastic, final step. God loves you and wants what is best for you. He has a future for you — both on this earth and in eternity. Remember that you are important to Him. He says, “You are precious to me . . . and I love you” (Isaiah 43:4). The very reason Jesus Christ came to earth to offer Himself in sacrifice is so that we might have life in all its fullness. It is His desire that we are set free from depression, fear, frustration and hurt so that we might experience this abundant life.

      Thoughts of taking your life do not come from God but from Satan. Jesus said, “The thief’s (Satan’s) purpose is to steal, kill and destroy. My purpose is to give life in all its fullness” (John 10:10). We are warned in 1 Peter 5:8-10, “Be careful – watch out for attacks from Satan, your great enemy. He prowls around like a hungry, roaring lion, looking for some victim to tear apart. Stand firm when he attacks. Trust the Lord. . . . He personally will come and pick you up, and set you firmly in place, and make you stronger than ever.”

      Give all your problems to Jesus and “cast all your anxiety on Him” (1 Peter 5:7). Then center your attention upon His love for you and His wonderful plan for your life. Rest in the assurance that Jesus will “never leave you nor forsake you” (Hebrews 13:5).

      God wants to help you if you will let Him, and so do others. God knows about your problems, and He also knows the answer to them. By yourself you may feel helpless, but with Christ’s help there is hope for tomorrow. He can bring good out of even the toughest situations.

      We urge you to begin by giving your life over to Jesus Christ (click the link below). Then share your problems with a pastor or with someone else who can help you and encourage you. We just said a prayer for you and will continue praying. You can also use the link below to connect with someone from our team.

      http://peacewithgod.net/

      The Suicide Prevention Hotline is 800-273-8255

  2. Donna Brumle says:

    I had 2 sons. My second child died at 40 in a fire 2 days after thanksgiving 2006. My first born never got over his brother’s death and died a year a half ago of heart attack. August 28th, 2015. I was lucky to have lunch with him on the 27th. No more family, I am 70, have husband, second husband. Feel lost.

    1. Laurie says:

      Dear Donna,

      My heart goes out to you.

      You have endured horrific loss. I have 2 girls, 9 and 11 and can’t imagine life without them as they are, literally, all I have.

      Donna, you are 70. May I suggest you pray without ceasing and live out your days, knowing you will be with them again soon.

      God Bless, and take care of you.

      Laurie

  3. Scott Bates says:

    Life is so hard…..

  4. Rick Owens says:

    Thank you so much for this article. I came home from.work Jan 4 and found my wife had committed suicide in our backyard. I have prayed so many times that she is forgiven because she was saved and trusted in the Lord fully. I had no idea of her inner despair but I believe that she is forgiven and I will see her again. Thank you for putting my heavy heart at peace. God Bless

  5. Cortney DeLorme says:

    The first sentence of the response to this question hit me like a ton of bricks.

  6. Nikki says:

    But isn’t suicide in itself rejecting God? Wouldn’t that mean not having enough faith to trust Him? Isn’t that rejecting Him?

    1. Laurie says:

      I’ve wondered that, but at 45 and having fallen on hard times (much harder than the average American can envision), I no longer think so.

      I know the arguments for and against. But I tell you truly, a person can love God and not be able to get past some of the worst places imaginable in this world. It’s hard to understand when you haven’t been down that low.