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Q:

My cousin had very serious emotional problems most of her life, and finally they overwhelmed her and she committed suicide. I firmly believe she was a Christian, but did she lose her salvation by doing this? Is suicide the unpardonable sin?


A:

Whenever I answer a question like this, I’m deeply aware that someone may be reading this who is seriously contemplating suicide—and I would do everything in my power to convince them not to take that final, drastic step. With Christ there is always hope.

God loves them; He loves them so much that Jesus Christ was willing to die on the cross for their salvation. And others care about them, as well (even if they have a hard time believing it). Suicide is never God’s will, and even in the midst of life’s worst storms we can look to Christ and discover that He truly is “an anchor for the soul, firm and secure” (Hebrews 6:19). The first step back from the brink of suicide is to turn to Christ and open our hearts to Him.

Suicide is always a tragedy—but in itself it is not the unpardonable sin. The only sin God cannot pardon is the sin of rejecting Him. God knew your cousin’s heart, and He also knows that mental illness sometimes clouds a person’s judgment so much that they aren’t fully responsible for their actions.

At the same time, ask God to help you be sensitive to the needs of others—especially someone who may be facing discouragement or depression. Often simply knowing that someone cares will help them turn the corner.

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61 Comments

  1. Randy Miller III says:

    If suicide is not God’s will, why did God willingly send Jesus to die?

    1. BGEA says:

      Hi Randy,

      The Bible says that we are all sinners (Romans 3:23) and that the price of sin is death (Romans 6:23). But because of God’s love for us, He came to the earth in the form of a human (Jesus Christ) to die in our place. He didn’t have to, but He did because He loves us. He loves us more than we could ever understand.

      Because Jesus Christ lived a sinless life, He provided the perfect sacrifice for our sins. Only a perfect, blameless person could take our place, and He did that on the cross. Now when we put our trust in Him, we can spend eternity with Him in heaven. Without Him in our lives, we will be separated from Him for eternity.

      Would you like to accept Christ into your life and let Him guide you?
      Visit to understand more about Jesus’ sacrifice on the cross.

      – BGEA Staff

  2. Stacy Martinez says:

    I am just scared to leave my children.

    1. BGEA says:

      Hi Stacy,

      We just prayed for you, Stacy, and hope you’ll reach out to http://peacewithgod.net/ and talk with someone online. You can also call 1-877-247-2426 to talk to someone at BGEA.

      God cares deeply about you and wants what is best for you. He has a future for you – both on this earth and in eternity. Remember that you are important to Him. He says, “You are precious to me . . . and I love you” (Isaiah 43:4). The very reason Jesus Christ came to earth to offer Himself in sacrifice is so that you might have life in all its fullness. It is His desire that you are set free from depression, fear and hurt so that you might experience this abundant life.

      If you have considered suicide, realize that thoughts of taking your life do not come from God but from Satan. Jesus said, “The thief’s (Satan’s) purpose is to steal, kill and destroy. My purpose is to give life in all its fullness” (John 10:10). We are warned in 1 Peter 5:8-10, “Be careful – watch out for attacks from Satan, your great enemy. He prowls around like a hungry, roaring lion, looking for some victim to tear apart. Stand firm when he attacks. Trust the Lord. . . . He personally will come and pick you up, and set you firmly in place, and make you stronger than ever.”

      Pray and ask God to help you with the problems you are facing. 1 Peter 5:7 says, “[cast] all your anxiety on Him, because He cares for you.” Ask Him for wisdom, guidance and strength to endure. Ask Him to help you overcome whatever obstacles are standing in your way. Rest in the assurance that Jesus will “never leave you nor forsake you” when you trust in Him (Hebrews 13:5).

      God wants to help you if you will let Him. God knows about your problems, and He also knows the answer to them. By yourself you might feel helpless, but with Christ’s help there is hope for tomorrow. He can bring good out of even the toughest situations.

      We urge you to begin by giving your life over to Jesus Christ (click here: http://peacewithgod.net/). By surrendering your life to Christ, you are also promised eternity with Him in heaven, where there is no pain, sadness or suffering.

      We also suggest daily Bible reading. Start by reading the Psalms. You might also find help and encouragement in a local church. Sharing your problems with a pastor or other mature Christian can help and encourage you.

      The Suicide Prevention Hotline is 800-273-8255

      For some practical advice about how to live each day with God, click here: http://bit.ly/LivingDailyWithGod

      God bless you and your kids.

      – BGEA Team

  3. GR says:

    Even the strongest Christians suffered what Thomas Aquinas called the “dark night of the soul. ” Mother Teresa suffered it for 10 years. I think I’ve got her beat. Pray for me.

  4. Kathy says:

    I can almost feel the heaviness lifting when I think of taking my last breath and finally leaving this broken body, mind and planet. Suicide feels like freedom… I want to die. But how will I do it?

    1. BGEA says:

      Kathy,
      We have prayed for you and encourage you not to take this final drastic step. Satan would love for you to think it’s a freeing option, when it’s not. Only God can provide the true freedom you’re seeking. Please consider talking with a member of our team through http://peacewithgod.net/

  5. Clinton says:

    Pray for me.

  6. Wayne Mauney says:

    I really liked Dr. Graham had to say about suicide in this article. In every article he turns us back to trust in Christ. No matter the article, if I’m feeling scared, he makes me feel better and gives me hope in what he says because he turns me back to Christ and reminds me that Jesus always cares and loves me! Thank you for that.

  7. Robert says:

    I want to die. Cant take anymore of the pain.

    1. BGEA says:

      Dear Robert,

      Just prayed for you and we have passed on your information to our prayer team, who will be contacting you soon.

      The Suicide Prevention Hotline is 800-273-8255

      We are very concerned that you have considered suicide, and we urge you not to take this drastic, final step. God loves you and wants what is best for you. He has a future for you — both on this earth and in eternity. Remember that you are important to Him. He says, “You are precious to me . . . and I love you” (Isaiah 43:4). The very reason Jesus Christ came to earth to offer Himself in sacrifice is so that we might have life in all its fullness. It is His desire that we are set free from depression, fear, frustration and hurt so that we might experience this abundant life.

      Thoughts of taking your life do not come from God but from Satan. Jesus said, “The thief’s (Satan’s) purpose is to steal, kill and destroy. My purpose is to give life in all its fullness” (John 10:10). We are warned in 1 Peter 5:8-10, “Be careful – watch out for attacks from Satan, your great enemy. He prowls around like a hungry, roaring lion, looking for some victim to tear apart. Stand firm when he attacks. Trust the Lord. . . . He personally will come and pick you up, and set you firmly in place, and make you stronger than ever.”

      Give all your problems to Jesus and “cast all your anxiety on Him” (1 Peter 5:7). Then center your attention upon His love for you and His wonderful plan for your life. Rest in the assurance that Jesus will “never leave you nor forsake you” (Hebrews 13:5).

      God wants to help you if you will let Him, and so do others. God knows about your problems, and He also knows the answer to them. By yourself you may feel helpless, but with Christ’s help there is hope for tomorrow. He can bring good out of even the toughest situations.

      We urge you to begin by giving your life over to Jesus Christ (click the link below). Then share your problems with a pastor or with someone else who can help you and encourage you. We just said a prayer for you and will continue praying. You can also use the link below to connect with someone from our team.

      http://peacewithgod.net/

      For some practical advice about how to live each day with God, click here: http://bit.ly/LivingDailyWithGod

      You might also be interested in this short video about God’s love for you: http://bit.ly/GodLovesYouVideo

      Or in this short note about unanswered prayer: http://bit.ly/UnansweredPrayer

      God bless and keep you, and make His face shine upon you and be gracious unto you, and give you His peace.

      God loves you, Robert, just the way you are, and has a plan for your life. Praying you will receive His love, which is so uplifting. Knowing Him (through reading the Bible) is so much better than our problems in this world. It will give you a new perspective on life.

      – The BGEA Team

    2. Jill A Hausman says:

      I love you and it’ll be okay…

  8. Joanie says:

    HELP!

    1. BGEA says:

      Joanie,
      Please visit http://peacewithgod.net/ where you can talk directly with a member of our team.

  9. cary says:

    I destroyed a 20 year marriage by abusing drugs to escape the stress and pain in my life. I have nothing left and I pray to God to take my life because I’m too much of a coward to take my own life. I am alone with nowhere to turn.

    1. BGEA says:

      Cary, we’re so sorry to hear about your marriage. It sounds like things have been extremely hard lately, but we want you to know that there’s always hope. Always. Would you like to talk to someone? You can reach someone from our team through online chat by clicking the bubble on this page: http://peacewithgod.net/

      We have also passed on your comment to our team so we can respond with further encouragement and hope. Hang in there, Cary. You aren’t beyond God’s reach.

  10. Pamela hylton says:

    Sometime reading like this in middle night helps the rough times when you fell alone and realize you can to God for all the answers. Thank you