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By   •   March 11, 2009   •   Topics: ,

Q:

I'm about to give up on God. I've prayed and prayed for Him to take away my problems, but nothing has changed. Why doesn't God do something? I thought He was supposed to care about us.


A:

God does care about us—far more than we will ever imagine. Even when we forget Him or ignore Him, He does not forget us or ignore us, because His love for us is everlasting. The Bible says, “Give thanks to the Lord, for he is good; his love endures forever” (Psalm 106:1).

Why, then, doesn’t He take our problems away when we ask Him? I’ve pondered this question most of my life, and to be honest I don’t have an answer that covers every situation. God sees the whole picture; we see only a part. Someday we will understand, when we see Jesus in heaven—but until then, the Bible says, “We live by faith, not by sight” (2 Corinthians 5:7).

But I do know this: Often God answers our prayers not by taking our problems away, but by giving us the strength and wisdom to deal with them. Yes, when problems arise we all wish they’d just go away—but sometimes God wants us to turn to Him and instead ask Him for the strength to stand up under them. And when we do, He has promised to grant it. The Apostle Paul said, “I can do everything through him (Christ) who gives me strength” (Philippians 4:13).

May this be your experience as you turn your life over to Jesus Christ and trust your problems into His care. God loves you; He loves you so much that He sent His Son into the world to make you part of His family forever. Put your trust in Him today.

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47 Comments

  1. joseph says:

    I lost the courage to pray. I’m in Kenya, my wife is in Dubai working there, my daughter is with my mother in-law. I’m all lonely by myself. I don’t have a job. I’ve prayed for the last 2 yrs for God to restore my family, give me a job & bring my wife back but he didn’t. I believed, prayed correctly, do good deeds but all in vain. I’ve never had an opportunity in my entire life to get an income and I’m 35 yrs now. I feel lost in the crossroads. Whom do I turn to when Jesus doesn’t answer me?

    1. BGEA says:

      Hi Joseph,

      We want to assure you that God hears your prayers, and we just prayed for you.

      There are two things can keep God from giving us what we ask in prayer. The first is sin – breaking God’s law and acting outside His will. Sin creates a barrier between us and God, and until that barrier is torn down, God can’t answer our prayers. Isaiah 59:2 says, “But your iniquities have separated you from your God; your sins have hidden His face from you, so that He will not hear.”

      That’s why the first step you need to take is to turn by faith to Jesus Christ and ask Him to forgive your sins and come into your life. When you do that, the barrier of sin is removed – and God hears your prayers. The second thing that keeps God from giving us what we ask for is if we are seeking something that isn’t His will. God loves us and knows what is best for us – and because of this, He won’t give us anything that isn’t His will. Remember that God sometimes answers us in ways we aren’t expecting.

      Here are two more answers from Billy Graham related to your question:

      My Answer

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      God bless you!
      -BGEA Staff

  2. CY says:

    First of all i know how you feel, i am sick of god myself, however i always remember the story of JOB. God allowed everything of job’s to be taken away, allowed constant problems and took his health and god seemed to ignore him. Then one day JOB gave up and god answered him and said we will never understand why he allows things to happen, but to simply trust him. In that instant job excepted what god said and god gave JOB everything back and more, he was happier now than before the trial. Always remember that the first will be last and the last will be first.

  3. Lucas says:

    Today I gave up on God too. I’ve been asking Him to help me for 2 months and he’s been silent. I’ve asked for a miracle and I got silence. So I asked him for comfort and I got silence. So I ask him for death now and silence. So I gave up on Him.

    1. BGEA says:

      Hi Lucas,

      We have passed your information on to our response team and just prayed for you. Please look for an email from them. If you want to chat before then, visit or call 1-877-247-2426.

      Maybe you’re wondering how a loving God could let you suffer.

      Suffering is something we all deal with. It can make us feel confused, angry or bitter. It’s proof that evil is no stranger to us. Sometimes we don’t understand God’s timing, but we should remember that He didn’t create evil. His plan was not for you to suffer. He is a just, merciful and loving God who gave humans free will when He created them. But because we are imperfect and sinful, we experience this evil and unfairness. Even so, God can bring good out of bad situations.

      It sounds like you are angry with God and doubt His existence because He’s not answering your prayers. We often think that the only way God answers prayer is with a “yes.” But “no” and “wait” are also valid answers.

      God doesn’t always give us what we want; He gives us what we need. Just like a good parent doesn’t grant all the requests of a child, God doesn’t answer every request the way we want. What we are asking might not be what’s best for us, even if we don’t fully understand it. (Romans 2:11 says, “God does not show favoritism,” so don’t think He cares less for you than someone else. He calls each person unique and valuable.)

      When we think of “unanswered” prayer, it might be that we don’t understand the way God responds to our requests. He might not give us an immediate answer, and sometimes our prayers are answered in a way we fail to recognize. We pray for prosperity, and sometimes we get financial stress. But our souls are made stronger in the process. We pray for health, and affliction is given, but we are better able to sympathize with others. We might question God’s wisdom, but He makes no mistakes.

      If our prayer is self-centered, concerned with our own desires, God cannot, in faithfulness, grant our requests. James 4:3 says, “When you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, that you may spend what you get on your pleasures.”

      Sin can also keep God from giving what we ask in prayer. Sin creates a barrier between us and God, and until that barrier is torn down, God can’t answer our prayers. That’s why it’s important to turn to Christ – who understands our suffering – and ask Him to forgive us where we have gone wrong and to guide our lives. When we do that, the barrier of sin is removed – and God hears our prayers.

      We live in a fallen world where we are all in need of a Savior, and that’s just what God provided. He sent Christ, who was perfect – holy – yet He suffered beyond imagination to pay the price for our sins and give us eternal life. Yes, we experience bad things here on earth, but we can be glad that God has provided a place of eternal peace in heaven.

      Jeremiah 29:13 says, “You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.” We encourage you not to give up. God knows you by name and cares about you, even when you reject Him. Talk to Him like you would talk to someone you know; be honest about your feelings and know that it’s OK to express your anger (just remember He is a holy God). Ask Him to reveal Himself to you, ask Him to help you see why you are in the situation you are in.

      We believe God is real because He has revealed Himself to us in creation (Romans 1:20) and in His Word, the Bible. We also believe He has a plan for your life, and we hope you don’t miss that plan by pushing Him away. It’s not too late to turn to Him.

      God bless you,
      BGEA Staff

  4. Lakasha Griffin says:

    My heart is so heavy at this moment. It seem as though this world I live in is closing up on me. I have one child he is two years old and his speech therapist suggest he has autism. This has really been weighing heavy on my heart, and I know I’m not suppose to question God but I just don’t understand of all the babies born 2014 why my baby.

  5. Marty says:

    I was raised a Pentecostal, prayed and trusted in God but in recent years and especially the last 10 months or so, my faith has been worn away by repeated incidents of friends, family, neighbors and ex’s do me wrong or throw me away like yesterday’s trash even though they say they love me and God. I’ve always tried to do right and be a good person to everyone in my life and those I encounter, but I’ve been mistreated, used, taken advantaged of and trashed any love I had for them. But why? Besides, God hates the gay lifestyle even though I’ve been attracted to men from an early age. I just want someone to love and accept me. I’m tired of asking God for help and get nothing, but see them succeed and say they’re “blessed”. I’m a mess.

    1. BGEA says:

      Marty,
      Thank you for reaching out. We have prayed for you. A member of our team would love to talk and pray with you. Please visit http://peacewithgod.net/ to start that conversation.

  6. Ashleigh says:

    God isn’t a fool; he knows what you want and how to get you out of a horrible situation. I’ve been in a situation where I came closer to God and I wondered if life would be so smooth and easy; I used to cry each day of my life because I was depressed, stressed out and even lost a lot of weight too. I waited patiently un to the lord; I also asked God, lord if you’re really there why aren’t you helping me because I worship you not any other gods? I got upset with God at some moment and I was almost losing my hope in him. But I never stopped playing gospel music or watching bible movies online. I can just say I had little faith left, yesterday I heard some good news about how my life was going to change. God takes time to answer

  7. Gary says:

    I am also so close to being finished with believing. I have cried out to him since a child and never once received a thing. I won’t go into a she life story just the last few years. I had back surgery in 2014, and 3 months after that my insurance drops me because they said I was too “expensive”. I have huge debt and barely make payments. I don’t eat much due to the bills and suffer greatly since I still can’t afford my pain medication . I am tired of hoping and praying to a silent God. I am tired of everyone but me getting blessings. I want some attention and so tired of waiting my turn. I am to the point of thinking it’s all lies.

    1. BGEA says:

      Gary, we’re so sorry to hear about all the issues you’re facing. That must be very difficult for you and our hearts go out to you. Your frustration is understandable, and we’re so glad you’re reaching out to us. Your comments remind us of people in the Bible like King David, Moses and Habakkuk who didn’t hesitate to tell God how they were feeling. David wrote in Psalm 89:46, “How long, Lord? Will you hide yourself forever? How long will your wrath burn like fire?” The Prophet Habakkuk also cried out, “How long, Lord, must I call for help, but you do not listen? Or cry out to you, ‘Violence!’ but you do not save?” (Habakkuk 1:2). And Moses, as he was leading a group of complaining people to the Promised Land, said to God, “Why have you brought this trouble on your servant? What have I done to displease you…?” (Numbers 11:11).

      These great biblical figures were not immune to suffering and feelings of injustice. They were honest about their feelings, but they also acknowledged that God is holy and that His ways are above our ways (Isaiah 55:8).

      God never promises us a life free of problems—Jesus Himself faced opposition, gossip, betrayal and crucifixion—but He does promise to be with us through the ups and downs. He may not answer our prayers in the way or the time we expect or want, but sometimes that’s because He has something better in mind, even if it’s something we can’t see right away.

      Have you ever read the poem “Footprints”? A man sees two pair of footprints in the sand where Jesus has walked beside him throughout his life, but he notices that during the toughest times, he sees only one set of footprints. He wonders why the Lord would leave him during those times. But the Lord tells the man that He never left; the one set of footprints he sees are the times He carried him.

      No matter how your feelings about God may come and go, He is always here for you. Always. The Bible says in Lamentations 3:22-23, “The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases; His mercies never come to an end; they are new every morning; great is your faithfulness.” It might be hard to see His blessings, but be assured that He cares about you. He knows your name! He created you and loves you and has a purpose for your life. Psalm 139 is a great passage to read about that.

      If you want to talk to someone or pray with someone, we hope you will visit our website. Someone there will be happy to chat with you online: http://peacewithgod.net/

      You might also check out this post on unanswered prayer: https://www.facebook.com/notes/peacewithgodnet/unanswered-prayer/563382200359272

  8. Denning says:

    Dear brother and sister in Christ,

    I am not going to prevent that I have any more positive strength and faith to go through my personal problems at this moment …. Days and nights I pray and seek his help but all in vain ….. God is silent and most preachers will tell you that He really cares and love us etc. I m truly tired of all these words without any real intervention. Worst of all , people tell me that God “s will is supreme and His thought is not my though !! But I am praying not to change his thought but rather I earnestly hope He can change of course of action and my predicament. That is why I believe in prayer…. Am I wrong or naive … Perhaps I’m a man of no faith …Not if why my mustard seed did not move a single stone?

    1. BGEA says:

      Thank you for your comments, Denning. We have forwarded your message to our team so we can respond to you via email.