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I thought I was making the right move when I dumped my husband and moved in with another man a couple of years ago. But now he's thrown me out, my ex-husband has remarried, my kids don't want anything to do with me, and I'm left out in the cold. How could I have been so stupid? I hope others learn from my experience.


I also hope others will learn from your experience, because the road you’ve gone down might look very tempting to them, but (as you’ve discovered) the devil never delivers what he promises. He promises happiness and freedom and excitement but only delivers heartache, slavery and emptiness.

However, as I’ve often said, one of life’s hardest lessons is that we cannot change the past. If you had it to do over again, you’d almost certainly not make the decisions you made. Instead, you’d have done everything you could to keep your marriage together. But you chose to go your own way, and now you’re suffering the consequences. The Bible warns, “Like a city whose walls are broken through is a person who lacks self-control” (Proverbs 25:28).

You can’t change the past, but with God’s help you can change the future. God loves you in spite of the way you’ve ignored Him and wants to forgive you and help you get your feet on the right path. Turn to Him and ask Christ to cleanse you and direct you.

I can’t promise everything will suddenly change, but I can promise this: God will be with you, and He will help you as you yield yourself to Him every day. Don’t go down the wrong road again, but commit your life to Christ today.

Maybe your life is out of control. Jesus Christ can guide you. Trust Him with your future today.

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  1. Lexie says:

    My husband and I divorced after 21 years of marriage. He filed because he was sick of me going to my family’s house every time he verbally abused me. I was sick of being treated badly by him so I signed the papers. I met someone who treats me better than I have ever been treated, so I fell in love and married again. Even though everything looks good on the outside, I feel that remarriage is still adultery and I am secretly depressed and feel I am going to be eternally separated from God. I don’t know what to do.

    1. BGEA says:

      Many questions are often raised as sincere Christians look to God’s Word for direction concerning divorce and remarriage. However, Christians differ widely in their answers to these questions. On top of that, the questions of divorce and remarriage are often surrounded by intense emotions, which can make it hard to think clearly.

      The evangelist Billy Graham would urge all Christians who face difficult questions to, above all, consider their relationship with Jesus Christ. God’s primary purpose for each of His children is to become like Jesus Christ (Romans 8:29). Becoming like Jesus through a close relationship with Him is the best way to experience healing from the hurts and sorrows of broken relationships and experience His best for the future. Being single or married is not of itself the key to genuine happiness in life. Only knowing and loving Jesus can give true purpose and joy.

      Jesus taught that marriage is a gift from God and that divorce is against the will of God caused by our hardened hearts (Deuteronomy 24:1-4 and Matthew 19:8). God ordained marriage as a lifetime commitment, and the marriage vows are sacred and binding. Jesus said, “But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, causes her to become an adulteress, and anyone who marries the divorced woman commits adultery” (Matthew 5:32). Mr. Graham has commented, “Some interpret this to mean that in the case of unfaithfulness, the innocent party is justified in remarrying. Others say that the divorce is justified but that remarrying is not allowed. It all boils down to a matter of conscience.”

      You might also consider these verses from the Bible: Matthew 19:9; Mark 10:11-12; Luke 16:18, and 1 Corinthians 7:10-15.

      Our encouragement to you, Lexie, is to try to make a successful second marriage. For more on how to love your spouse, read 1 Corinthians 13:4-8.

    2. nguyen says:

      I have been married for 11 years with two boys 8 and 12, been divorced for three years now and haven’t been remarried yet. I’m 42. Now I’ve been thinking, be single and serve God! I know that in 11 years, I gave my wife a lot of suffering. When I was upset, I wouldn’t say anything nice, and did some stupid things, most of which are minor though. I blame myself for my marriage breaking down down 99%. I wish I could change the past but I can’t, I can only live for today and tomorrow. My marriage breaking down is my life lesson I’ll never forget, and I regret it happened to me. I know that being single, no matter if you are male or female is so overbearing, you feel like you always need someone to make you happy. That’s why we date over and over again. Stop and pause for a second, God will fulfill your happiness.

  2. Krystle says:

    This is some what happen to me , but ex husband had a baby a few weeks ago. But he cheated on me and so I did it bk. Which I know two wrngs Dnt make it right. But it still hurts cause I just feel like we are meant to be and that we were soulmates as well. But I will keep my faith that happiness will come my way soon. …

  3. DAVID says:

    My Girlfriend left me one day on my return from a business trip. I paid for ALL her expenses her house, car ,etc… , I found out by visiting her house ,she said she was sick, and found another man there. Now she refuses to talk or even see me face to face. My heart is crushed and I feel used, betrayed and cheated on. PLZ pray for me.

  4. Christy says:

    Same thing happened in our family after parents married 47 years with four children. Our Mom is living with another man. Our dad is living alone grieving himself to death and has some dementia now. Our family is torn apart.

  5. renee says:

    We have a loving and forgiving God. I know this for a fact!

  6. Sue says:

    The same thing happened in my family after my parents were married 41 yrs. now my Dad is alone. Turn to God and show your kids you are leading a new life.