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I tell God every day that I wish He'd just take me on to heaven and not make me stay here any longer. My husband died two years ago and I'm so lonely that all I can think about is being reunited with him in heaven. Am I wrong to feel this way?


God knows your heartache, and it isn’t necessarily wrong to want to cast off the burdens of this life and go on to heaven—which is our true home. The Apostle Paul declared, “I desire to depart and be with Christ, which is better by far” (Philippians 1:23).

But have you ever asked yourself why God hasn’t answered your prayer (at least in the way you wish He would)? The reason may be that He still has a purpose for you down here—something He wants to accomplish through your life. I don’t know what it is, but I urge you to pray about it and ask Him to show you what it is.

I think, for example, of a widow I know who grieved deeply over the death of her husband. But one day she met another widow who also was grieving—and she realized that God could use her to encourage and help this woman. And God continues to use her to bring comfort and hope to others who are grieving—and through this, her own grief has lessened. The Bible tells us to “encourage each other” (1 Thessalonians 4:18).

Thank God every day for the memories you have of your husband. Thank Him, too, for the hope we have of heaven because of Jesus Christ and His death for us. But pray, too, that God will use you to point others to Christ, who alone brings light to our darkness.

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  1. Gjm says:

    I am in severe pain, I can’t go on, I lie in bed crying pretty much permanently. I know I’m a burden on my family. I just need to go home.

    1. BGEA says:

      We’re so sorry to hear of the pain you’re going through. Please check your email soon for a response from our team. We want to encourage you!

  2. Christine says:

    I am struggling right now on how to help my grandmother who is 96 years old. She is growing weak but has a great deal of frustration. She keeps wondering why God won’t take her. She repeats this often. I want to help her find peace while she waits on God’s timing but I don’t know where to start. I was hoping you could lead me to the right words and scripture. My prayers continue for all elderly especially my grandma.

    1. BGEA says:

      Hi Christine,

      You are a caring granddaughter. Here are some resources that may encourage her:

      My Answer

      Bible verses:

      Philippians 1:23-25

      1 Samuel 46:4

      Psalm 71:9

      Psalm 71:18

      Psalm 71:17-18

      Isaiah 40:29

      Psalm 31:15

  3. Carol says:

    I lost my precious son tommy at age 21 aug 4, 2015. The intense pain just gets worse till
    I think I’m going mad. I’ve prayed and prayed to God about tommy, but I feel no release from this pain .

    1. BGEA says:

      Hi Carol,
      We are so sorry to hear of your loss. Please consider talking to a member of our team at We are praying for you.

  4. Maritza kaufmann says:

    I lost my husband July 1, 2015. I miss him so much. He was the most loving, kind, giving husband anyone would want. We were married nearly 43 years. His name was Charlie. Oh God I love him.