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I know God has forgiven me, but I can't forgive myself for some of the things I've done, and the way I've hurt some of my family. All I can think about is what a bad person I've been. I even wonder sometimes if God hasn't forgiven me after all.


If you have honestly committed your life to Jesus Christ and are trusting Him alone for your salvation, then the Bible says that God has forgiven you — fully and freely. You have been adopted into His family, and nothing can ever change that. The Bible says, “Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus” (Romans 8:1).

Don’t trust your feelings; they aren’t dependable and will only lead you astray. Instead, trust Christ and what He has done for you by His death on the cross and His resurrection from the dead. Trust, too, in God’s promises to you — because God cannot lie, and He has promised to forgive and save all who come to Christ by faith.

In addition, ask God to help you forgive yourself. The memory of what you did in the past condemns you — but it condemns you falsely, because Jesus Christ gave His life for all those sins. The Bible says, “We set our hearts at rest in his presence whenever our hearts condemn us. For God is greater than our hearts” (1 John 3:19-20). If God has forgiven you, shouldn’t you also forgive yourself?

Thank God for His forgiveness — and then ask Him to free you from the past. In addition, if possible go back to those you hurt, and let them know you regret what you did and you hope they’ll forgive you — even as Christ has forgiven you.

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  1. Jackie says:

    Sometimes I get so angry and mad at people and I keep asking God to help me with this. I feel God hasn’t forgiven me cause I keep sinning

  2. Anthony Rouda says:

    I need forgiveness

  3. AE says:

    Do you think that there is ever reason NOT to go back and confess something that you committed against another person, if they didn’t know that you harmed them? Do you think that confession can ever do more harm than good for the person who was wronged. Do you think it’s ok if I ask God to show me if he wants me to confess, and then to wait on Him? I’m having such a struggle here with something horrible that I did years ago as a kid. Thank you!

    1. CRVR says:

      I have the same question as AE. According to what was said above “Thank God for His forgiveness and then ask Him to free you. In addition, if possible go back to those you hurt, and let them know you regret what you did and you hope they’ll forgive you, even as Christ has forgiven you.” What if I asked for God to forgive me for what I’ve done however, I havent told the person. Does God still leave the past in the past and can I just focus on moving forward in Christ? Because it would cause more harm than good, especially since now I realized what a horrible person I was and want to move forward w/ Christ and leave the past behind.

  4. Connie bishop says:

    Thank you for these words of encouragement.

  5. chey says:

    I used to put myself down a lot. So when it comes to knowing if God has forgiven me it is a battle in my mind. I know if I ask God to forgive me with a truthful heart he will. But I still worry if he did or not because after that I start doubting myself. Like I will never be able to fulfill what god wants me to do. I pray with all my heart that God would help me get over these doubts.

  6. Mike says:

    Forgiveness is a strong world and my inner thoughts haunt me every day I was a horrible person who has done a lot of drugs theft for drugs and now I’m free from the past and now I have a good life but for many years I still put my self down the hurt of the lost of my family friends and statue I try to keep my mind busy with work but still haunted and feel like I don’t belong be side my heavenly family they were the only ones that ever listened but I still go on with my pains wishing for a pray for my self to be answered but still have many great un answered prayers that has been good for me lord plz guild me to a be free of my shame I have on my self

  7. Ron Sutton says:

    I can’t seem to forgive myself because bad business decisions I made in the past have brought pain on my wife and children. We are a close family and they have forgiven me, but I can’t seem to forgive myself. Its not the memory of the past mistake that troubles me. It is seeing my wife suffer now because of what I did then.

  8. Vicky Enriquez says:

    My husband was killed by another driver that crossed the median in 2000. My oldest daughter Tina was 21 and died in a trailor fire two months later. I can’t make up or ask forgiveness because they’re gone. Its honestly more than I can live with.. I keep going because I have 3 other adult children and grandchildren,, but nobody knows how hard it is for me to have so many regrets to live with.

    1. Sgt says:

      I wanted to say that I’m sorry. But also, you said no one knows how hard it is. That’s false, I bet your 3 other children know. Or someone in the same situation. Don’t ever think you are alone in something.

  9. Anna says:

    Pam, God understands how you feel and cares so much. None of us deserve to be forgiven, but I'm so thankful for our loving God who gave us the greatest gift ever: Our Savior Jesus! ~John 3:16 Remember…God loves you so much!!

  10. pam says:

    i am truly sorry for my past sins, i feel like i don't deserve to be forgiven. My mom is in heaven. I know this because God let me know it when she past away. I feel like i let her down and God.