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I have a loved one who is gay. Where can I find help?


The realization that someone you love is gay can be a shattering experience. If you are trusting in Jesus as your personal Savior and Lord, you can be conscious of your Heavenly Father’s great love for you and your loved one (Jeremiah 31:3). God is the One who is able to transform lives and heal the scars of painful memories. We want to assure you that any willing person can be liberated from homosexuality through the power of Jesus Christ; see 1 Corinthians 6:9-11, especially verse 11. If your loved one is not yet willing to seek freedom from homosexuality, or seems unable to find it, then you should pray earnestly for his or her release. James 5:16 states: “The earnest prayer of a righteous person has great power and produces wonderful results” (NLT).

Center your attention on God and His wonderful plan for your lives. Ask Him to fill you with His Holy Spirit and help you to radiate His love, joy, and peace. The manifestation of the love of Christ is much more effective than argument in assuring others of our great love and concern. Also, ask God to give you wisdom to deal with the situation (James 1:5).

For a practical guide to overcoming homosexuality, the book Coming Out of Homosexuality by Bob Davies and Lori Rentzel would be helpful.

As you turn your loved one over to Jesus, you will discover the truth of Philippians 4:4-7, “Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus.”

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  1. Mountain Girl says:

    Please pray for my daughter.

  2. Paul Daunais says:

    My friend is a coming of age young adult, and is concerned about sounding articulate. I worry about this too as we are both exploring our career path in the big city. How can we sound more articulate not only with our faith but in everyday life?

  3. Lori Acker says:

    please pray for my uncle

  4. Diane says:

    My son just told me he is transgendered. He wants to be a female. I love him but I feel so sick. I’ve failed God and my son. I am going to pray and pray for him. Please pray for him too that he might come to know the Lord Jesus as his Savior. Thank you.

    1. Tonya Rhodes says:

      Diane, I am burdened for you and your son. I have been praying for my family member. Do what this paragraph suggests, it is what Jesus wants us to do. And don’t give up. I broke down and got on my knees and cried out to God for his leading. I prayed I would be clean and pure in heart and to have the Lord Jesus show His spirit in me. Confess sin often. Get in the word more than you ever have. Be prepared for your life to change. This what I have been doing for a long time. There will be hurts! Jesus will shine in you. Jesus loves and wants our children. I will be praying for. Go back to church if you aren’t now. A church the follows Jesus Christ and his word.

  5. nancy says:

    My grandaughter revealed to us she is gay, she is baptized and born again. I love her and don’t want to push her away. I need to be able to pray the scriptures for help for her and me

  6. hurt mom says:

    Please pray for our family. Our 18 yr old son revealed to us 6 months ago that he is gay. Please pray the Holy Spirit will pour over him and he will hear God’s voice, pray that he will have a renewing of his mind. He thinks God is ok with this.. Pray for wisdom for me and my husband.

  7. mom says:

    Please pray for our family. My daughter thinks she is transgender. I don’t know how to deal with this. My heart is breaking.

  8. mary leer says:

    thank you for your messages

  9. Audrey Mosley says:

    Thanks. Your comments are extremely helpful. Filled me with hope.

  10. EliaQuintero says:

    Please pray for my daughter Cindy she is in a lesbian relationship ,with a young lady and had abandoned her marriages vows., also her Husband Jason Instead of continue to obey and trust the Lord is seeking friendship and companionship with an unbeliever woman