By   •   February 11, 2008   •   Topics:


How can someone who's very nice one minute explode in anger the next? I have a cousin like this. He's very active in his church and I have no reason to doubt his faith, but it's like walking on thin ice to be around him because you never know what will set him off.


I’m not a psychologist, of course—but someone who angrily explodes every time he doesn’t get his way needs to face what he’s doing and take steps to overcome it. In extreme cases, they may even need professional help to discover why they harbor so much pent-up anger.

Why is it important to deal with our anger? One reason is because almost nothing is as destructive as uncontrolled anger. Not only does it damage our relationships with others (as you’ve discovered) but it also leaves emotional and spiritual scars on our own minds and souls. The Bible rightly says that “Anger is cruel and fury overwhelming” (Proverbs 27:4). It also says, “A fool gives full vent to his anger, but a wise man keeps himself under control” (Proverbs 29:11).

The Bible labels unjustified anger as sin, and calls on us to repent of it and seek God’s help to overcome it. Often, however, an angry person refuses to face this and blames others for his outbursts—but God’s Word is clear: “Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger” (Ephesians 4:31).

Pray for your cousin, and ask God to give you wisdom in knowing how to help him. His anger is wrong—but God’s Spirit can change him. The Bible says, “The fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience … and self-control” (Galatians 5:22-23).

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  1. Donna says:

    Thank you for this. I will pray for this person. I will pray for myself also in handling my emotions of how it makes me feel.

  2. MARILYN RASK says:

    It is Gods word that convicts us and gives us direction and wisdom to overcome our sins. Praise God for the bible.

  3. Cathy Rocco says:

    I always have struggled with anger all my life. This article hit home for me. I know there is righteous anger and sinful anger. Thank you for your wisdom and scripture reference on this topic.

  4. Gary Adam Padilla says:

    Sounds like my sister she gets up set when people correct her about her relationship with God.So with this spiritual advice in faith helps alot.God Bless You and Your staff.

  5. Daniel Lopez says:

    Thanks, I have this situation but as much as I want to make it valid. It all comes down to how discipline we are spiritually, The more I feed my soul with a devotion, prayer (excuses). the more I am aware when to put away the flesh, We not only hurt our-self but others that loves us and do not want to see us this way. I praise God for your ministry.

  6. jose garcia says:

    great reading amen

  7. Dina says:

    This came at just the right time. Thank you. I shared it and also the question on outbursts of anger. This happened with my step-son last night again and I was earnestly praying this morning for the situation and for him and the damage he is doing to his family. He is on my FB as a friend, so pray that he sees this and responds.