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Q:

How can I overcome the effects of the abuse I suffered as a child?


A:

Abuse is one of the most traumatic and frightening experiences that can happen to a child. Yet God can provide a healing of memories and the power to overcome and live victoriously in His grace.

If you have received Christ as your Savior, you can put this heavy burden on the Lord Jesus’ shoulders (1 Peter 5:7). If you have never taken this all-important step, we urge you to make your commitment to God by confessing your sins, repenting, and inviting Jesus to come into your life and be your Savior. When you do this, you become a member of God’s own family (see John 1:12).

When we commit our hearts and lives to the Lord, He promises to bring good out of evil. Romans 8:28 says: “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.” We who know the Lord are still learning that God can take everything that comes into our lives, no matter how tragic, and turn it to His glory and to our good. When we totally commit our lives to Him, He does just that.

It is not unusual for victims of abuse to carry the emotional scars and memories with them for a very long time. Often victims will turn their anger and frustration inward toward themselves. These misplaced emotions then result in unwarranted feelings of guilt, fear, and low self-esteem.

Counseling can be very helpful in overcoming these feelings. Counseling referral services for child abuse victims, past or present, and those who are involved in the situation, can be obtained by contacting the National Child Abuse Hotline, in care of Childhelp USA, 15757 North 78th Street, Scottsdale, Arizona 85260, toll-free telephone: (800) 4A-CHILD.

God will give you comfort and peace as you are faithful and obedient to Him (Psalm 37:3-5). Commit the past, the present, and the future to the Lord. Trust Him to fill your life with peace, joy, and faith as you read His Word and pray daily. Also, actively participate in a gospel-teaching church. There you may be helped by the counsel and ministry of the pastor and the fellowship of other Christians.

God loves you, and He hates all evil, including abuse. Find peace through Him right now.