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I used to laugh when I saw associates of mine go through a so-called midlife crisis—new convertible, new girlfriend, new attempts to turn back the clock, etc. Well, now it's happened to me, and I don't know what to do. I've already destroyed my family, and I don't even care. Any advice?


In spite of what you say, I think you really do care; if you didn’t, you wouldn’t have written to me. I hope I’m right, because if I’m not, you’re facing a very grim future, whether you realize it or not.

Admittedly, you may be temporarily blinded (so to speak) by the supposed excitement of what you’ve done. The Bible, after all, acknowledges that sin may have its “fleeting pleasures” (Hebrews 11:25), but those pleasures are deceptive and seldom last. You’ve seen what’s happened to others who’ve gone down this path, and in your heart you know it almost never leads to lasting happiness. The Bible warns us not to “be hardened by sin’s deceitfulness” (Hebrews 3:13).

I urge you to face the seriousness of what you’ve done, and turn away from it before it’s too late. It won’t be easy, I know, but with God’s help you can, and I pray you will. Not only is your future at stake, but also that of your family.

The most important thing you can do, however, is to face your need for God’s forgiveness, and to turn your life over to Christ. He alone can give you hope for the future, and He alone can help you turn away from temptation and begin living the way you should. Don’t be deceived by sin’s foolishness any longer, but give your life to the One who gave His life for you: Jesus Christ.

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  1. Helvio santos says:

    Very complicated. Took over two months to figure out my wife’s Mac. Hurt so bad. I never knew about this problem. I started to pray asking God to give a clue. One 2 in the morning I found out on line. It’s getting better I think. I pray a lot and follow every step. No conflicts for a month. No separation talk anymore. She hugs me once a day. Please whoever is reading this DO NOt TALK ABOUT THE PROBLEM. It’s a poison. Agree with everything she says. I have no help. My pastor abandoned me. Her family only talk to her. I only have a friend who leaves fairway and my step brother in law who used to be very immature person , but loves me. I’m doing good in this battle , but I would never thought I would be left alone. God has a reason This

  2. Jeanne says:

    My Godly, dependable, loving husband left a note on our kitchen counter one day when I left to run an errand telling me he was leaving me, had hired an attorney, and was relocating to Atlanta (we live in Charlotte). I was completely blindsided – had no idea he was unhappy. He had never expressed any unhappiness and the week that he left, life was completely normal. He turned 50 five days before he left. I had no contact with him at all for 4 months, then he began to email me from time to time about non-emotional things (Internet issues, etc…). It has been almost 8 months and he still won’t even talk to me. I have no idea what on earth is going on in his heart. MLC Is not a joke – it is very serious

  3. Annetta Williams says:

    I need your help and prayers.

  4. Sarah says:

    This article is really not very helpful. MLC is very real and devastating. Spouses going through a MLC need help, and their spouses need support and information, which there is unfortunately not much out there on. If you are a husband/wife with a spouse going through a MLC – please seek out a Christian counselor and a group of friends you can pray with. I have been very fortunate to have a group of friends to do the Power of a Praying Wife with. Depending on God, regardless of if your marriage works out or not, is the ONLY way to get through a MLC trial. We are not through it yet but I can see God moving. I still don’t know how things will end up, it is in my spouses hands, but I fully trust God that all things will work out for good.