By   •   July 15, 2013   •   Topics: ,


Aren't Christians supposed to love each other? We joined a church after moving to a new city, and all the people seem to do is bicker (often about the smallest things). I'm a newcomer to the Christian faith, but I'm getting discouraged.


You’re right; Christians certainly are supposed to love others, especially their fellow believers. Jesus’ words couldn’t be clearer: “My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you” (John 15:12).

When we don’t love, however, it’s because we haven’t allowed Christ to take control of our lives and fill us with His Spirit. I often think in this connection of the Christians in the ancient city of Corinth. Most of them came out of a pagan background, and it was hard for them to understand what it meant to follow Jesus in their daily lives. Paul, in fact, had to rebuke them because they weren’t getting along.

But Paul didn’t give up on them — and neither did Christ. Instead of condemning them or turning his back on them, Paul urged them to look at Christ and seek to be more like Him — and in time, they did. Perhaps God has placed you in this church to be an example to others of Christ’s love and mercy.

Pray for those in your church who can’t seem to get along — and pray especially for your pastor. Pray not only that they’ll stop bickering, but that they’ll commit their lives more fully to Jesus and allow His love to fill their hearts. Almost nothing pleases Satan more than for Christians to squabble among themselves, because it makes unbelievers laugh at the Gospel and assume Christians must be phonies. But it doesn’t need to be that way — and it won’t be, when God’s people humble themselves and seek to do His will.

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  1. Jack King says:

    I agree with you that these people that are bickering is not a positive image for Christians. I went agnostic or nearly so for a number of years and thought finally, I can maintain a positive relationship with Christ in spite of what the others do.

  2. Joy says:

    Please bless our family members in the military and friends around the world today and any enemies, in Jesus name amen.

  3. Joy says:

    thankyou for a loving family and friends, Lord. sometimes we do disagree. please bring your peace and love and forgiveness and supply our daily bread or needs today. Thankyou. St. John 3:16 and “The Way of the Cross Leads Home, in Jesus name amen.”

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  5. Michelle says:

    Yes, the Lord wants that more than ever.We are the body the church we are all missing the mark. A lot are playing church not growing up but staying immature baby Christians . Pray for the body (unity) God wants us to love one another . U see it pray!

  6. Lisa says:

    So when is it OK to just move on and find another church? I can't find peace, joy and sanctuary where I'm attending.

    1. Jack King says:

      That is exactly what to do. But pray lots and read the word and find someone like the pastor to talk to and draw close to Jesus. It is your program and belongs to no one else. May God be with you!