When Christmas is Hard

By   •   December 7, 2012

In the middle of the “most wonderful time of the year,” many of you are facing a dilemma or difficulty. You may have a strained relationship with one or multiple family members. Perhaps you’re lonely or grieving a loss and the holidays are particularly painful for you. Or, this is the busiest time of the year and you dread the rat race that often accompanies this season.

Whatever the case may be, we want to provide you with resources to help guide you through this season’s difficulties in a biblical way. Below, you will find some family- and holiday-related questions people have asked Billy Graham over the years, along with his answers.

Help the Lonely
This Christmas was very hard for me. Most of my relatives are gone now (including my husband), and the few I do have are either too old or live too far away, so I was completely alone. Please tell people to reach out to lonely people during holidays, because it’s hard for them.
Be a friend »

Can’t Afford Gifts
My husband lost his job recently and we really can’t afford to give people as much for Christmas this year as we have in the past. But I’m afraid we’ll offend them if we cut back too much. I know this isn’t a spiritual question, but how should we handle this? 
Don’t go into debt »

Hectic Holidays
I know Christmas is still some weeks away, but I’m already getting uptight about it. It’s always such a hectic time and we always end up spending far more than we planned to. To be honest, I don’t really enjoy Christmas any more, although I know I ought to. Any suggestions?
Make Christmas meaningful »

Wayward Children
Our son will be coming home from college for the Christmas holidays, and the last time he was here he let it be known that he didn’t believe in God like he used to. We ended up in a big argument because we couldn’t answer his questions, but we don’t want that to happen again.
Show the love of Christ »

Influence Neighbors for Christ
Our neighbors really get into Christmas in a big way—lots of decorating, parties, expensive gifts and so forth. But to them it’s just a time to have family fun, with no religious meaning. How can we get them thinking about the real meaning of Christmas?
Pray for them »

Teach Children the Real Meaning of Christmas
Our two children are getting very excited about Christmas right now (which is understandable, of course). But how can we help them also see the real meaning of Christmas, without sounding like we’re against all the things that excite them about the holidays?
Start today »

Overcome Family Disagreements
Many years ago, my sister and I had a sharp disagreement about something and haven’t talked to each other since. But recently I realized this wasn’t the way God wanted me to act, and since then I’ve tried to reach out to her (without success). My Christmas card to her even came back unopened and refused. Should I just give up?
Hope for change »

Holiday Time Demands From Family
Christmas is still months away but I’m already dreading it. The problem is that we never get to have our own Christmas as a family, because our relatives insist we spend the entire time with them. I’m exhausted by the time we get through with all the travel and emotional tensions. I don’t see any way to break this cycle, but maybe you have some ideas.
Plan carefully »

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15 Comments

  1. nancy says:

    This is my first Christmas without my husband who passed away in August. Thanks to my wonderful friends in my church I will not be alone this Christmas.

  2. Mary says:

    I am very grateful for BGEA. “Be a friend.”; “Do not go in debt.”…Honesty is the best policy. Let your family and friends know about your budget.; Make it a point not to ever 'rush'; “Wayward Children?”…Never debate with them. Just Love them.

  3. Glen says:

    Unfortunately the suicide rate is highest during the Christmas season. When you are alone, try going to Christmas Concerts, and other Christmas activities. Focus on the manger in Bethlehem rather than Santa claus.

  4. Cathy says:

    Christmas is difficult for me because my oldest and closest son died the week before Christmas. We buried him on December 23, 2008. I have two other boys, praise the Lord.

  5. debbie says:

    The peace of Jesus Christ is the best way for me to make it thru the tough times. He is my strength.