How to be Born Again

By   •   September 20, 2010

A man named Nicodemus came to Jesus by night. Perhaps he was afraid of criticism or he had a desire for a private conversation, or maybe he wanted to know more before committing himself to Jesus Christ. In any event, he came and asked Jesus some questions.

Jesus looked at him and said, “Nicodemus, you need to be born again” (Cf. John 3:5). In fact, He said, “Verily, verily”–and any time Jesus used that expression, He meant that what was to follow was very important. He said, “Verily, verily, I say unto thee … ye must be born again” (John 3:5,7, KJV).

Have you been born again? Call it conversion, call it commitment, call it repentance, call it being saved, but has it happened to you? Does Christ live in your heart? Do you know it? Many people have thought a long time about religion and Christianity and yet have never made a commitment. Are you committed to Jesus Christ?

Nicodemus must have been stunned when Jesus said, “You must be born again.” It wouldn’t seem shocking if Christ had said that to Zacchaeus the tax collector or to the thief on the cross or to the woman caught in adultery. But Nicodemus was one of the great religious leaders of his time. Still, he was searching for reality.

You may go to church, but perhaps you are still searching. There is an empty place in your heart, and something inside tells you that you’re not really right with God. Nicodemus fasted two days a week. He spent two hours every day in prayer. He tithed. Why did Jesus say that Nicodemus must be born again? Because He could read the heart of Nicodemus. Jesus saw that Nicodemus had covered himself with religion but had not yet found fellowship with God.

The Root of Our Problems

What causes all of our troubles in the world–lying and cheating and hate and prejudice and social inequality and war? Jesus said, “But those things which proceed out of the mouth come from the heart, and they defile a man” (Matthew 15:18). He said the problem is in our hearts; our hearts need to be changed.

Psychologists, sociologists and psychiatrists all recognize that there is something wrong with humankind. Many words in Scripture describe it. Among them is the word transgression: “Sin is the transgression of the law” (1 John 3:4, KJV). What law? The Law of Moses, the Ten Commandments. Have you ever broken one of those Commandments? Then you are guilty of having broken them all (James 2:10).

The word sin carries with it the idea of missing the mark, coming short of our duty, failure to do what we ought to do. The Bible says, “All unrighteousness is sin” (1 John 5:17, KJV). And yet before we can get to heaven, we must have righteousness. God says, “Be perfect as I am perfect, holy as I am holy” (Matthew 5:48, 1 Peter 1:16).

Where are we going to get that perfection? We don’t have it now, yet we can’t get to heaven if we don’t have it. That is why Christ died on the cross; He shed His blood and rose again to provide righteousness for us.

Another word is iniquity, which means to turn aside from the straight path. Isaiah said, “All we like sheep have gone astray; We have turned, every one, to his own way; And the Lord has laid on Him the iniquity of us all” (Isaiah 53:6).

The Bible says, “Therefore, just as through one man sin entered the world, and death through sin … thus death spread to all men, because all sinned” (Romans 5:12). Every person needs a radical change. We need to have our sins forgiven; we need to be clothed in the righteousness of God. To find fulfillment in this life we need to find something to commit ourselves to. Are you a committed person? What are you committed to? Why don’t you make Christ your cause and follow Him? He will never let you down.

The New Birth

Some people ask the question: What is new birth? Nicodemus asked that question too: “How can a man be born when he is old?” He wanted to understand it.

I was born and reared on a dairy farm. How can a black cow eat green grass and produce white milk and yellow butter? I don’t understand that. I might say, “Because I don’t understand it, I’m never going to drink milk again.” And you’d say, “You’re crazy.”

I don’t understand it, but I accept it by faith. Nicodemus could see only the physical and the material, but Jesus was talking about the spiritual.

How is the new birth accomplished? We cannot inherit new birth. The Bible says that those who are born again “were born, not of blood, nor of the will of the flesh, nor of the will of man, but of God” (John 1:13). Our fathers and mothers may be the greatest born-again Christians in the world, but that doesn’t make us born-again Christians, too. Many people have the idea that because they were born into a Christian home, they are automatically Christians. They’re not.

We cannot work our way to God, either. The Bible says that salvation comes “not by works of righteousness which we have done, but according to His mercy He saved us, through the washing of regeneration and renewing of the Holy Spirit” (Titus 3:5).

Nor is reformation enough. We can say, “I am going to turn over a new leaf,” or “I am going to make New Year’s resolutions.” But Isaiah said that in the sight of God “all our righteousnesses are like filthy rags” (Isaiah 64:6).

Some of us have changed on the outside to conform to certain social standards or behavior that is expected of us in our churches, but down inside we have never been changed. That is what Jesus was talking to Nicodemus about. He said, “Nicodemus, you need changing inside,” and only the Holy Spirit can do that. Being born from above is a supernatural act of God. The Holy Spirit convicts us of our sin; He disturbs us because we have sinned against God. And then the Holy Spirit regenerates us. That is when we are born again. The Holy Spirit comes to live in our hearts to help us in our daily lives. The Spirit of God gives us assurance, gives us joy, produces fruit in our lives and teaches us the Scriptures.

Some people try to imitate Christ. They think that all we have to do is try to follow Jesus and try to do the things He did, and we will get into heaven. But we can’t do it. We may know the religious songs. We may even say prayers. But if we haven’t been to the foot of the cross, we haven’t been born again. That is the message Jesus is trying to teach us.

To be born again means that “[God] will give you a new heart and put a new spirit within you” (Ezekiel 36:26). “Old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new” (2 Corinthians 5:17). We are “partakers of the divine nature” (2 Peter 1:4); we have “passed from death into life” (John 5:24). The new birth brings about a change in our philosophy and manner of living.

The Mystery

There is a mystery to the new birth. Jesus said, “The wind blows where it wishes, and you hear the sound of it, but cannot tell where it comes from and where it goes” (John 3:8). But you can see the result. Jesus did not attempt to explain the new birth to Nicodemus; our finite minds cannot understand the infinite. We come by simple childlike faith, and we put our faith in Jesus Christ. When we do, we are born again.

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It happens this way. First we have to hear the Word of God. “Faith comes by hearing, and hearing by the word of God” (Romans 10:17). That is the first step. “It pleased God through the foolishness of the message preached to save those who believe” (1 Corinthians 1:21). It sounds foolish that words from a Bible have the power to penetrate our hearts and change our lives, but they do, because they are God’s holy words.

Then there is the work of the Holy Spirit. He convicts: “And when He has come, He will convict the world of sin, and of righteousness, and of judgment” (John 16:8). He changes us. He changes our wills, our affections, our objectives for living, our disposition. He gives us a new purpose and new goals. “Old things pass away, and everything becomes new” (Cf. 2 Corinthians 5:17). Then He indwells us: “Do you not know that you are the temple of God and that the Spirit of God dwells in you?” Does God the Holy Spirit live in you?

Jesus Christ says that we must be born again. How do we become born again? By repenting of sin. That means we are willing to change our way of living. We say to God, “I’m a sinner, and I’m sorry.” It’s simple and childlike. Then by faith we receive Jesus Christ as our Lord and Master and Savior. We are willing to follow Him in a new life of obedience, in which the Holy Spirit helps us as we read the Bible and pray and witness.

If there is a doubt in your mind about whether you have been born again, I hope you will settle it now, because the Bible says in 2 Corinthians 6:2, “Now is the accepted time; … [today] is the day of salvation.”

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  1. Alouis Taidoreva says:

    The words were really touching. That’s what I was looking for.

  2. Thomas Tumusiime says:


  3. Danny says:

    Have went up front many times to ask the lord to come into my life and have sinned terribly later on after. I have tried to clean myself up spiritually but as always I’ve always backslid back into sin for a while and I realize there never was any radical change in my heart and I’ve never experienced the joy, fulfillment and release of sin in my life and because of that I have always wondered if I have been saved. I need to know for sure.

    1. Tiffany Jothen says:

      Danny, it’s important to remember that salvation is not about a feeling, but about God’s promise to us. He promises that “everyone who calls on the name of the Lord will be saved” (Romans 10:13).

      Salvation doesn’t depend on you and what you have done; it depends only on Christ and what He has done for you through His death on the cross and resurrection from the dead. By paying the price for our sins, Christ broke the barrier between us and God and provided a way for us to spend eternity in heaven.

      Because we are imperfect, we keep sinning after we are saved, but we are typically convicted to turn from our sins. There is a change in our lives: when we have Christ, we actively try to obey Him. We WANT to stop sinning and we seek His forgiveness. He will help you through whatever issues you are facing and promises that you will not be tempted beyond what you can bear (1 Corinthians 10:13). He can help you stay strong even when tempted to go back to your old ways.

      Here are a couple of encouraging verses for you. Isaiah 43:25 says, “I, even I, am He who blots out your transgressions, for my own sake, and remembers your sins no more.” Isaiah 1:18 also says, “Though your sins are like scarlet, they shall be as white as snow; though they are red as crimson, they shall be like wool.” By accepting Christ, He has forgiven you of your sins. And He can transform your life if you let Him guide you.

      So how do you do that? Although you should put your faith in Christ each day, you don’t need to worry about your salvation since you have already accepted Him as your Savior. Instead, pray and ask for wisdom. Ask God to guide you and to help you do His will. Find a Bible-teaching church so you will have fellowship with other Christians. Read the Bible and allow God to speak to you through its pages. He can help you grow in your faith.

      Check out these resources for more on salvation:

      – BGEA staff

  4. Margaret Gunn says:

    Thanks for explaining what being Born Again means. God bless you.

  5. eddie king says:

    thank you

  6. Moffat Kapherachoka jr says:

    I have sinned for a long time. I now want my life to change. May the light of the lord shield me from the darkness of sin. May He who created Man, forgive all my sins

  7. Don La Blond says:

    The Apostle Peter said that we are called to the same glory and excellence as Jesus. Is this accurate and what does this have to do with being born again?

  8. Steve Mussman says:

    While working briefly as a crew member filming, The Cross and The Switchblade, Pat Boone witnessed to me on the set. I was BORN-AGAIN about 1 year later in April 1971. When I was BORN-AGAIN that is exactly what happened–I was BORN-AGAIN in my studio apartment located in Manhattan while alone.
    I am a 72 year old Jewish man from Brooklyn who knew absolutely nothing about Jesus or being BORN-AGAIN. At age 28 I came to being BORN-AGAIN. Never heard of such a thing however the only way I can describe what happened to me was I was BORN-AGAIN.

  9. Bill Wightman says:

    Beware he who would separate any man from God within. His Sin is of the darkest kind. He strives for power in the natural world where there is none and for dominion in spoken and printed words. He reveals himself through deletion, omission, and suppression, and dresses in linen to deceive. But truth is in spirit, not in words, and creation is in awareness of spirit through Love. So all is well. The holy dwell in the house of God now and forever. Praise be to God Almighty, maker of heaven and earth.