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Q:

I went to my 20th high school class reunion the other day, and it was really depressing to discover how many of my classmates are on their second or third marriages. Why aren't marriages lasting today? My marriage is happy, but I worry about what might happen to our children.


A:

Surely one of our most important responsibilities as parents is to show our children what it means to have a committed and loving marriage. It won’t necessarily keep them from having problems in their own marriages — but it still could do much to help them overcome any difficulties.

Why are so many marriages failing today? I can only answer from my own perspective as a Christian and a minister. I’m convinced one reason is because we no longer see marriage as a commitment — a commitment made to God, as well as to each other. Jesus said, “So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate” (Matthew 19:6).

Another reason marriages are failing today is because we’ve lost sight of what it truly means to love someone. “Love,” for many people, is only an emotion — and when the emotion fades, so too does their relationship. But true love is also an act of the will — a commitment to put the other person first instead of self. The Bible says, “Love is patient, love is kind…. It is not self-seeking” (1 Corinthians 13:4-5).

God gave marriage to us for our happiness and security. But when we leave Him out of the picture, our happiness and security easily fade. Don’t let this happen to you, but commit your life — and your marriage — to Jesus Christ, and build your relationship on Him.

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26 Comments

  1. Michelle says:

    The devil attacks marriages all over the world.He finds a way in to destroy families to get to the children. Be sober and alert the word of God reads why? because we have an enemy Satan and his army of demons. The Lord is greater than satan .

  2. Nita says:

    Marriage is beautifu! I thank God that He has blessed us to be married for 32 years. I truly loved my husband too.It seems that when God blessed him/us with finanices, he left God and he went was doing things that was NOT of God.Sadly divorced.PRAY!!

  3. Angela says:

    Like Belinda and Randy i was also the injured spouse. Tried everything possible to get him back! He chose her! i let him go. He found Christ through me….I do hope his commitment to Christ is still the same….I never remarried I am 51 now..

  4. Bea says:

    Marriage is so sacred that when you think of God you remember He is the one who planned it all for you. Pray for your marriage every day and for others too, and since its origin is God satan will never sit and let you enjoy it, so dedicate to God.

  5. Stephen says:

    Billy Graham's- My Answer.Hebrews 13:4 Marriage is honourable in all…(KJV) Thank you sweet Jesus for never leaving us or forsaking us. Meeting you Jesus was and is our salvation. Amen.

  6. noble says:

    God bless you billy Graham