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Q:

What advice do you have for a new mother? I didn't grow up in a stable home, and I don't want to make the same mistakes my mother made, even if they weren't always her fault.


A:

We recently celebrated Mother’s Day across our nation, a time when we should not only honor our mothers, but also thank God for all they’ve meant to us. Perhaps your mother wasn’t perfect, but she still gave you life and took care of you when you could not take care of yourself. One of the Ten Commandments declares, “Honor your father and your mother, … so that… it may go well with you” (Deuteronomy 5:16).

How can you be a better mother? First, love your children — and let them know you love them. They are a responsibility God has entrusted to you and your husband, but they also are a God-given gift, to be loved, treasured and enjoyed. One of the ways you love them is by teaching them about life. The Bible says, “My son… do not forsake your mother’s teaching” (Proverbs 6:20).

Then don’t be afraid to say “No” when your children do wrong, and to back it up with appropriate discipline (but not in anger). Be sure you and your husband agree, however; children are very adept at playing off one parent against the other! Always letting a child have his or her own way may seem like the loving thing to do at the time, but in reality it’s a sure recipe for problems later on.

Finally, put Christ at the center of your family — and your life. Read the Bible and pray with your children; help them realize why church is important; let them see Christ in your relationship with each other. May God bless you — and every mother — on this special day.

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23 Comments

  1. Becky says:

    I think too many mothers in today's society don't really take the time to enjoy being with their children and doing things with them. This is sad.

  2. ERI says:

    God gave me two wonderful sons, hardworking, honest, good husbands and fathers; but the only thing missing is that they and their families will accept Jesus as their Lord and Savior. Please pray for them. God bless you and your family.

  3. Celia says:

    Thank you Billy. I thank God that I was a youngMum with yours and others who preached theWord of God, which built me up through difficult time bringing up children. God IS faithful, now they are bringing theirs up well.God Bless you Billy

  4. Stephen says:

    What advice do you have for a new mother?Teaching your child the doctrines and love of Jesus is really excellent advice in bringing up children in our world today.~Mark 3:35 For whosoever shall do the will of God is my…mother (KJV) God bless.

  5. Rebecca says:

    I have made many mistakes as a mother, but God has helped me be a better mother by seeing My mistakes and telling them what I have done. It is important toDiscipline but do so carefully so as not to loose their respect for you.

  6. Eby says:

    God bless you Mr Graham and family for all you do, may God continue to richly reward you.

  7. Barbara says:

    As a 73 year oid mother of two and grandmother of five. After reading this I am now thinking of the possibility that God blessed mothers and fathers with His most precious gift to help parents to LEARN as well as to teach.

  8. Gail Haynes says:

    The most important thing while raising children is to keep the communication consistent with God in prayer. Become sensitive to the leading of the Spirit so he will be able to direct and guide your choices for your child. Pray for your child daily

  9. Karen says:

    Read the Bible to your children every day and pray with them and for them. Ask yourself what is the lesson in these verses-a warning? a promise? a spiritual principle?, then ask yourself what does this mean for me- 'How will I heed this warning?'

  10. Doris says:

    I know from experience that when we place Jesus Christ as a #1 priority in our daily lives, HE makes a way for us whether it seems to high to get over,too low to get under, HE provides a way so that we can stand up under it.(1 Corn. 10:1)Thank You.