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We tried to raise our daughter to do what's right, but she's gone off the deep end and is living in exactly the opposite way. The strange thing is that she still wants to be close to our family. Should we just overlook the way she's living and pretend it doesn't matter?


Our children don’t always make wise decisions or live the way we know they should, but they’re still our children, and if possible we should do all we can to maintain a relationship with them. Jesus urged us to “be at peace with each other” (Mark 9:50).

Does this mean you ignore what your daughter is doing or keep quiet about your concerns? No, it doesn’t, and the reason is because you love her, and you know from your experience (and from God’s Word) that eventually her sin and rebellion will catch up with her. Right now, she thinks she’s found the road to happiness, but in reality, she hasn’t. Ignoring God’s moral laws and choosing to live only for the pleasures of this life eventually lead to instability and heartache and unhappiness. The Bible’s warning is true: “‘There is no peace,’ says my God, ‘for the wicked'” (Isaiah 57:21).

Be thankful your daughter still wants to share in your family’s life. Far too many in her situation become alienated from their families, and when troubles come, they have nowhere to turn. At the same time, don’t give her the impression that you aren’t concerned about the road she’s traveling — because you are.

You may feel helpless right now, but remember: God is able to do what we parents can’t do. Pray for your daughter, that she’ll see the error of her ways, and most of all, that she’ll turn to Christ and commit her life to Him.

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  1. Alison Bartlett says:

    I’m a single parent of 35 year old son who still lives at home very shy all his mates have settled down but Ben hasn’t met anyone! He likes to drink and gamble on football ! I’m a private hire taxi driver work unsociable hours so need my sleep my son works all week come weekends he has a drink comes home very disruptive shows no consideration for me disturbing me continuously this has got worse in past year throughout his teens to early 30’s was every weekend then he calmed down but now it worse it’s taking a toll on me and I feel and dread the weekends , I asked him to move out some time ago he gambled away his savings in hope of making more ended up losing the lot ! He gambles every weekend in debt with bank can’t pay his keep I pray

  2. Lou Cribbs says:

    Encouraging words on wayward children. We grandparents are also praying for the salvation of our grandchildren.

  3. anna g. says:

    Wpw! Praise God. He knows too well what I’m soo worried n devastated about my daughter. I pray the Lord will change her ways to please Him. In Jesus name I pray, Amen.
    Ty bgea for all that u all do

  4. Natalie Correa says:

    I can relate I once was a rebellious child but thank God for his mercy I was saved. My children were raised in a bible based church and my children have now also gone away from God, my daughter more so after public high school teaching them all sorts of religion she has decided to no longer believe in anything and says everyone can have their own God there is no heaven or hell my son still says he believes in God but refuses to go to church and hangs around people of no faith. I been at my end with this it hurts but all I can do is pray I know God saved me I know He can save them I just pray they are open to His call.

  5. Ruth says:

    Thank you for your guidance. I’ve been very worried about my daughter. Now I feel renewed hope that my prayers for her and the family will be answered. I will never give up on my loved ones. And I know the Lord won’t either! Amen!!!

  6. Luci says:

    This describes our granddaughter who is breaking our hearts with her wayward choices. Thank you for confirming what I have been doing, to keep the “door to her heart” open to know we will always love her and are praying for her.

  7. Darla says:

    Wow, I sure can relate to this one!! Our son was brought up in the church all his life and he has now totally walked away from the Lord. All we can do is keep loving him and praying for him and remember God is in control. I was in his shoes when I was younger- I went wayward for a time- but I was raised up in a Christian home and I had that foundation and came back to the Lord. I will be praying for all of you!

  8. Marcy James says:

    My daughter is also away from the Lord. Please pray that she will return to the Lord and walk
    with Him. Thank you.

  9. Kathy Jensen says:

    I feel this mother’s pain. Our son was going to be a missionary, on fire for his faith…he was going to college and took a humanities course. He began reading books by communist authors and then books on atheism. He questioned his faith and could not get answers that satisfied him from us(his parents) or pastors. He went farther and farther away from God until he finally rejected his faith. I would suggest this mother also find a network of Godly friends who she respects and build relationships with them. People with whom can be a support to her with God’s wisdom.

  10. Elaine Olmeda says:

    What can you do as a grandparent when you raised your children in the Lord but one of them decides he’s an atheist and is raising my sweet grandson to be one too? My heart aches for them!!!

    1. Marina says:

      Pray. God knows the end from the begining. He knows the plans He has for him and for all of us!
      Surrender to Him