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By   •   January 9, 2012   •   Topics:

Q:

People talk about how hard it is to be a single parent, and believe me, it is. Most of them are mothers, but I'm a single dad and I think that's even harder. I don't know why I'm writing you, but maybe you can encourage me somehow.


A:

Yes, it’s hard being a single parent, whatever the cause might have been. And I’m sure you’re right; it must be even more difficult being a single father. One reason I wanted to reprint your letter is because I hope it will make us more sensitive to the difficulties single parents face.

The greatest encouragement I can give you is to assure you that God knows all about your situation, and He loves you and wants to help you. Some Bible scholars have even suggested that Mary, the mother of Jesus, might have become a single parent at some stage, since Joseph is not mentioned later in the Gospels. Although this isn’t certain, you can be sure that God has a special place in His heart for parents who must face life alone.

I often think of the heartache and sorrow that engulfed ancient Judah when Jerusalem was destroyed and countless parents lost their spouses. Jeremiah lamented, “We have become orphans and fatherless, our mothers like widows” (Lamentations 5:3). Yet he also could say, “Because of the Lord’s great love we are not consumed, for his compassions never fail” (Lamentations 3:22).

May you turn to God for the strength and wisdom you need every day. If you have never done so, ask Christ to come into your heart, and begin building your life on Him. Then seek practical help; many churches today have special programs for single parents, both to encourage them and provide practical help for the issues they face.

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9 Comments

  1. Lalliannghaka Pachuau says:

    Billy Graham’s ansawers are really challenging for the parenting jobs.

  2. Alecia Bennett says:

    Thank you for your help I really needed it!

  3. Lorna says:

    Praise the Lord. Just to know that He is in control and I am not.

  4. Carla Donaldson says:

    I too am a single parent. My husband just passed of cancer. Never in my dreams did I think this would happen to me. I lost my father when I was younger to see this happen to my kids kills me. My youngest is struggling she is bitter right now and doesn’t know how to express her feelings. I always tell my girls, God did not do this, we will be fine but it is scary. I hope no one ever has to go through what I went through. It was hard, and still is.

  5. CATHERINE says:

    I AM A 50 YEAR SINGLE PARENT TO A NOW 4 YEAR GIRL. GOD BROUGHT THIS CHILD TO ME AT THE AGE OF 2 MONTHS. I AM OVERWHELMED AND EXHAUSTED. THIS BEAUTIFUL GIFT FROM GOD IS EVERTHING I EVER WANTED .. I CONTINUE TO LOOK TO HIM DAILY FOR STRENGTH, WISDOM AND GUIDANCE. IT IS NOT EASY FAITH MAKES THINGS POSSIBLE NOT EASY

  6. Frances Roach says:

    As a single mother, having sent my husband home to be with the Lord after a short bout with cancer, I understand the struggles. I totally agree with Billy. Your strength and wisdom must come from the Lord. Without Him, I would not have gotten this far. Also seek godly people to serve as prayer partners. This is invaluable!

  7. cynthia says:

    I am a single mom and it is hard to be a single mom…gender does not matter -dad or mom. My only hope is in Jesus and I know He walks everyday so close beside me that the need for the second parent is taken care of! Praise his name for ever!!

  8. Steve Patterson says:

    I am single father, with custody of my teenaged daughter. It can be hard, but we can do all things through Christ who gives us strength. Let Christ be your guide and trust Him. Train your child in the ways of the Lord. It can be hard, Yes I know first hand, but we must keep the faith.

    1. Amy Sung says:

      It is not easy being a single parent but we can do all things throughChrist who strengthens us.