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Q:

I came home from work the other day and found my wife had moved out. She left a note saying not to try to find her because she'd found someone else. I admit I've been a lousy husband, but do you think God would bring her back if I prayed hard enough?


A:

Let me ask you a question. If your wife did return, what would she find? Would she find you were any different from what you were before she left? Or would she discover you were just the same as you have always been?

This is why your first prayer should be for yourself–a prayer that God will forgive your sins (including your failures as a husband), and that Christ will come to live within you and begin to change you. You see, God knows all about you. He knows the way you have lived and what you have done wrong in life. More than that, He knows what goes on inside of you; as the Bible says, He “judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart” (Hebrews 4:12).

But in spite of that, God still loves you! Elsewhere in your letter you admit that you have forgotten God most of your life–but He has not forgotten you. He loves you so much that He sent His Son into the world to die for your sins. Your greatest need is to give your life to Jesus Christ, and I invite you to do that today.

Then commit your future to Christ, and ask Him to help you follow His path. Pray for your wife also, that God will bring her to Himself. Perhaps in time she will return to you–but even if she doesn’t, you have hope for the future if you have Christ in your heart.

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  1. Regas Sager says:

    This is so true… I have experienced all of those things from not being such a good husband to watching my wife emotionally discount from me and then the physical disconnection. That was tough but I’m learning that putting your trust in God is the “best” thing to do. Sometimes we hope for things that are not in His will or we move based on our emotions. This is dangerous because at the end of the day if we don’t commit to Him it will be a daunting task of finding true happiness in this life. Although my wife has left me there is a glimmer of hope because with God nothing is impossible. I need prayer warriors, saints that will stand in proxy with me and affirm that God can do anything but fail. And just like the 3 Hebrew boys even if God doesn’t deliver them He is still able. This is the same mindset that I have! Even though I’m in my furnace even if God doesn’t give me the desire of my Heart I know that He has my best interest at heart.

    For all of the husbands or Has been that have failed to cover their wives. I will give you a word of encouragement, God will and God can make it happen again. He is the God of second, third, fourth and even fifth chances. Put your trust in Him and don’t focus on your situation. Focus on the one that made everything!

    And encouraging word for someone who needs it.