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Q:

My husband admits he's being unfaithful to me but he doesn't care. He says if I don't like it I should leave. I've always felt divorce was wrong in God's eyes, but I feel so humiliated and hurt that I don't know how much more I can take. Please pray for me.


A:

What your husband is doing is very wrong, not only in your eyes but in the eyes of God. The Bible is clear: “You shall not commit adultery” (Exodus 20:14). When you were married, you both made a solemn vow before God to be faithful to each other as long as you both would live – and God takes that vow very seriously. But your husband has broken that vow, and from what you say, he shows no signs of regret – let alone repentance.

God gave marriage to us, and His plan was for a husband and wife to live together in complete harmony and trust. The Bible puts it this way: “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh” (Genesis 2:24). This is why divorce was never part of God’s original plan, because it is contrary to His design for marriage.

But we now live in a sinful, imperfect world, and sometimes marriages do break down. Jesus stressed the importance of marriage, but He also taught that divorce was permitted in cases of marital unfaithfulness (see Matthew 19:9).

God loves you, and my prayer is that you will turn to Christ and open your heart and life to Him. Then ask Him to help you know what His will is in this difficult situation. In addition, ask Him to guide you to a pastor or other wise person who can encourage and help you.

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5 Comments

  1. jake says:

    Matthew 19:9

  2. Kathy says:

    I feel ike this example was written just for me. My marriage of 18 years has ended in divorce. My husband was deployed to various locations in Iraq, Afghanistan and Korea before I received an email 3.5 years ago informing me he would be filing for divorce when he returned home. I later learned he was having an affair with his former high school sweetheart. I never could arrange a meeting with him since he did not keep me informed concerning his military schedule. He never returned home to me. Our divorce was final on Halloween 2013. I have struggled with doubts and fears about how the divorce affected my relationship with Christ. This is still painful and I struggle with the question “why?”.

  3. Tam says:

    Thanks for bringing up Matt 19 I believe jesus knows what it’s like to be betrayed .i know the pain .i don’t believe in divorce but I also don’t believe Christ wants us to live daily in a dark hole of pain and sorrow and ongoing betrayal and uncertainty we have to find out His will. sometimes divorce is the only way……….

  4. Theresa Floyd says:

    I am going through a similar situation. This is the second time my husband left and was unfaithful. Only God can heal u both. Place him in Gods hands and take care of you mentally physically and spiritually. Stay faithful to God he will heal u and can place people in your husbands life that begin to change his heart.

  5. Virginia says:

    Being divorced is not fun because it does affect ur children. Now that my spouse came back home it’s not the same. Looks like we’re just going thru the motions and I want out.