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My ex-boyfriend talked me into getting an abortion several years ago, and I can't get it out of my mind. I knew it was wrong, although all my friends told me to go ahead. I can't forgive myself, and I know God won't forgive me, either. I don't know why I'm writing, but maybe you'll pray for me.


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Many people may agree with your friends—but I’m thankful you know otherwise, for ending the life of the little child who was growing in you wasn’t right in God’s eyes. God’s words to Jeremiah apply to every human being, born or unborn: “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you” (Jeremiah 1:5).

But you are wrong when you say God can never forgive you! King David in the Old Testament was a great and good man in many ways—but later in life he strayed from God. He committed adultery with another man’s wife, and then to cover up his sin he arranged for that man to be killed in battle (see 2 Samuel 11). Adultery … lying … murder … How could God ever forgive him?

And yet God did forgive him! David honestly faced his sin, repented of it and sought God’s forgiveness: “Against you, you only, have I sinned and done what is evil in your sight” (Psalm 51:4). And when he did this, God forgave him and cleansed him of his sin. David could then truly say, “Blessed is he whose transgressions are forgiven, whose sins are covered” (Psalm 32:1).

This can be your experience as well. God loves you, and Christ died to take away every sin you ever committed—every one. Don’t let your emotions or anything else keep you from Christ. Ask Him to come into your life today, because in Him “we have redemption, the forgiveness of sins” (Colossians 1:14).

You can have forgiveness through Jesus Christ today.

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19 Comments

  1. Laurie says:

    Forty years ago, I was a young, frightened girl who met up with the wrong guy. This was my first experience ever and I got pregnant. My family, with the exception of my dad, were supportive of having an abortion. Dad didn’t know for years. I was very afraid of him. They told me the baby was just a blob with no feeling. Now I know differently and I anguish over this choice to this day. I believe in God’s forgiveness but find forgiving myself very hard!

  2. philomena says:

    I had a rough childhood being abandoned by my dad and left with a struggling mum,i went through several abortions I lost count,can I ever be forgiven I’m married now and need children pls pray for me I’m d worst sinner on planet earth,i weep each time I remember my past.

  3. Jessica says:

    I faced the same thing and have constantly asked if God could ever forgive me. This was exactly what I needed. THANK YOU.

  4. Nomi says:

    What about a teenager who was forced into an abortion by her own “Christian” Mother? Mother said I had to or my dad would kick me out of the house and disown me. I had no place to go, nobody to turn to. I looked up to my mom and believed her. I was raised to obey my parents. I’ve asked and begged God to forgive me through the years. Forgiving myself and forgetting is impossible. I avoid the subject at all costs. I never talk about it, but keep it buried inside. I didn’t know until years later when I told one of my sisters that she would have helped me. But at the time I didn’t know that. My mother had me so scared that I did what she said. It crushed me. Will God forgive me and let me into heaven?

    1. Joy Allmond says:

      Nomi, Scripture says that God will forgive you if you earnestly ask for it. Here are some Q&As from Billy Graham over the years on forgiveness: http://billygraham.org/grow-your-faith/topics/christianity/forgiveness/

      Also, here is a resource that can guide you to the ultimate peace in your relationship with God: http://peacewithgod.net/

  5. Jacky says:

    I now have confidence that when I confess my sins God will forgive and cleanse me from all unrighteousness.

  6. Mary-Margaret Moore says:

    It’s great to know that God will always love me and forgive me for my sins.

  7. Mary-Margaret Moore says:

    Thank you Pastor Graham for giving me the confident to continue to believe that God loves me and he always will.

  8. Joyce says:

    Thank you I have prayed and suffer from the same mistake. I feel better knowing God has forgiven me Thank you This the first time I have gone to your e-mail God has sent you to me. Thank you again

  9. seilla says:

    6 1/2 years ago I found my selfinsame spot and I am still struggling with it, nevar really have come to terms with it is just like a memory without feelings. I ad a 6 month old baby my family didn’t want to know about me and my daughters father threat hen to out me out on street I didn’t know what else to do. I ask God to forgive me every day but Brandon what you said broke me in a good way. Pray for me..

  10. brandon says:

    God can forgive you. I have a daughter who died and a 7 year old special needs child. I am 27. My daughter is in heaven and she knows how much I love her. Try praying to God and asking him if you can speak to your child. If you feel like you can tell your child how much you love them. Tell your baby your sorry.Ask your baby to forgive you and even ask your child or ask God to please let you know that your child loves you back. Ipromise you your child loves you and I alive and well. Use your story when God heals your heart to help other woman choose life. I love you my sister I Christ and so does God and your baby. I will pray for you.