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I know we're supposed to forgive people who hurt us, but some terrible things happened to me when I was younger, and I'll never be able to forgive the person who did them. The memory of what he did will torture me the rest of my life.


When we forgive someone for what they did to us, we aren’t pretending it never happened, or that it wasn’t evil or hurtful. If we did that, we’d be untruthful.

But when we forgive someone, we let go of our desire for revenge, and we also let go of our anger and bitterness. Admittedly, this is hard to do. But often the first step is to realize just how much these things are hurting us — and the longer we hold on to them, the more they hurt us. Bitterness and anger are like poisons that eat away at our souls, and ultimately we are the ones hurt by them, not the person who hurt us. The Bible commands, “See to it … that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many” (Hebrews 12:15).

The key is to realize how much God has forgiven us. No matter how deeply someone may have hurt us, we’ve hurt God far, far more — both by our deliberate disobedience and our neglect. And yet God still offers to forgive us — freely and fully, although we don’t deserve it. And we are called to forgive others in the same way — even if they don’t deserve it.

Ask God to forgive you for all your sins, as you open your heart and life to Christ. Then ask Him to give you the power to forgive this person, and to begin looking to the future instead of the past.

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  1. Deloris Barrier says:

    I know we as Christians supposed to forgive people who have hurt us. But what about a pedophile who abused a four-year-old child who was a friend of his little sister, whom he also abused? He was someone we trusted and let into our home. When the little girl finally told us what was being done to her and his little sister, he was arrested and got 10 years in prison. How can I forgive a monster like that? She had to go through years of therapy and is still afraid to be alone.

    1. Joy Allmond says:

      Deloris, while “sin is sin,” it is reasonable to say that some sins have more far-reaching effects than others. And abuse is certainly one of them. Here is a link to some Q&As from Billy Graham over the years that we hope you will find helpful: