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I know I wasn't a very good father, but I'm an old man now and I really wish I could see my children again. I've begged them to forgive me, but they just ignore me. I don't know why I'm writing, but maybe you can urge fathers to do better than I did.


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Tomorrow, Americans will be celebrating Father’s Day, a special day set aside to honor our fathers and thank God for all they have meant to us. Being a good father isn’t easy, but almost nothing is more important, when we see it from God’s viewpoint.

If you could live your life over again you’d probably try to avoid the bad decisions you made, and you’d try to be a better father. And that’s one reason I wanted to reprint your letter, because it reminds us of what happens when fathers ignore their God-given responsibility to “Train a child in the way he should go” (Proverbs 22:6). God is our Heavenly Father, and He is our example of what it means to love and care for our children.

What can you do? First, seek God’s forgiveness for the past — not just for the wrongs you did, but also for the good things you failed to do. God loves you (as well as your children), and the greatest discovery you’ll ever make is that He loves you so much He sent His Son into the world to die for you. By a simple prayer of faith confess your sins to God and ask Christ to cleanse you and come into your life.

Then do whatever you can this Father’s Day to let your children know you still love them, in spite of your failures. Pray for them also, that God will bring healing to their hurts and help them forgive the past.

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12 Comments

  1. Sue says:

    To EVERY Father, be thankful that your kids love you and are there for you, my father left the family 15 yrs. ago and it hurt us a lot. I still love my dad and I forgive him for what he did. Teach your kids love, God's word and spend time with them.

  2. DESTA says:

    Thank u for this blessing message comesfrom true father's God.

  3. Glen says:

    Yes, it's important for children to realize that their fathers are human beings and have problems too. We should forgive them for the times they failed and be thankful for the good that they did for us.

  4. WRANZELL says:

    Thank you for your encouraging thoughts about being a father. It is quite a task being a dad,also it has great rewards. I can say I believe God allows us to have children, so we can truly witness the love he has for us.

  5. Kelly says:

    This advice works for mothers too.

  6. Enock says:

    Amen thank you for the powerful word.God bless you

  7. Norman says:

    I have made a lot of mistakes raising my children, but I have always loved them. The greatest mistake that I can think of, is living in such a way that my marriage end in devours. My eldest will not forgive me. But God as forgiven me.

  8. God have marcy, for all i did says:

    God have marcy for all I did wrong.

  9. Gina says:

    To all dads, your presence is SO very powerful. You write on the wall of your child's core beliefs about themselves with your attention or your absence. God has entrusted you with a child. He will help guide you as you step up to that role.

  10. Chingzo says:

    I Love My Dad alot.