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Q:

I know God has forgiven me, but I can't forgive myself for some of the things I've done, and the way I've hurt some of my family. All I can think about is what a bad person I've been. I even wonder sometimes if God hasn't forgiven me after all.


A:

If you have honestly committed your life to Jesus Christ and are trusting Him alone for your salvation, then the Bible says that God has forgiven you — fully and freely. You have been adopted into His family, and nothing can ever change that. The Bible says, “Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus” (Romans 8:1).

Don’t trust your feelings; they aren’t dependable and will only lead you astray. Instead, trust Christ and what He has done for you by His death on the cross and His resurrection from the dead. Trust, too, in God’s promises to you — because God cannot lie, and He has promised to forgive and save all who come to Christ by faith.

In addition, ask God to help you forgive yourself. The memory of what you did in the past condemns you — but it condemns you falsely, because Jesus Christ gave His life for all those sins. The Bible says, “We set our hearts at rest in his presence whenever our hearts condemn us. For God is greater than our hearts” (1 John 3:19-20). If God has forgiven you, shouldn’t you also forgive yourself?

Thank God for His forgiveness — and then ask Him to free you from the past. In addition, if possible go back to those you hurt, and let them know you regret what you did and you hope they’ll forgive you — even as Christ has forgiven you.

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23 Comments

  1. awa says:

    Am I not saved because I cannot or choose not to or for some reason, just do not forgive myself not only for the things I have done in the past but for what I am doing now (sins of omission, commission, secret sins, sins of unction or of function). I know we sin all the time and are forgiven of them. I just cannot forgive myself. Maybe I just have not committed my life to Jesus Christ. Maybe I am just pretending. It is certainly not my intention. I just cannot be sure that I am in God’s care. I cannot place my life in His trust. I’ve been holding on it for so long that I don’t know how to let go and give it to Him. Sure, I say the words and want to believe that I sincerely mean what I say, but nothing in my spirit confirms it.

    1. BGEA says:

      Hi Awa,

      If you are unsure of whether you have received Jesus Christ as your savior, please visit PeaceWithGod. It clearly explains how to know if you have done this, or not. You can also pray to rededicate your life to Jesus Christ.

      If you have asked forgiveness for your sins and committed your life to Jesus Christ – trusting Him alone for your salvation, then the Bible says that God has forgiven you. You have been adopted into His family, and nothing can ever change that. The Bible says, “Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus” (Romans 8:1).

      Don’t trust your feelings; they come and go. Instead, trust Christ and what He has done for you by His death on the cross and His resurrection from the dead. God promises that He will forgive and save all who come to Christ by faith.

      Also ask God to help you forgive yourself. The Bible says, “We set our hearts at rest in His presence whenever our hearts condemn us. For God is greater than our hearts” (1 John 3:19-20). If God has forgiven you, shouldn’t you also forgive yourself?

      Isaiah 43:25 says, “I, even I, am He who blots out your transgressions, for my own sake, and remembers your sins no more.” Isaiah 1:18 also says, “Though your sins are like scarlet, they shall be as white as snow; though they are red as crimson, they shall be like wool.”

      Thank God for His forgiveness – and then ask Him to free you from the past. And if it’s possible and applies to you, go back to those you hurt and let them know you regret what you did and you hope they’ll forgive you – just as Christ forgave you.

      For more on God’s forgiveness, click here:

      God bless you.

      – BGEA staff

  2. Genevieve says:

    I don’t know if the mistake I made was a sin, but it’s been haunting me for almost a year since it happened and I haven’t been able to move on from it. I can’t get past the idea that because of what I did and the opportunities I missed, that my life will never be as blessed as it could have been had I not made the mistake. I want to be close to God like I was before it all happened but it hangs over my head and keeps me from Him. I don’t know what to do and I’m really depressed.

    1. BGEA says:

      God doesn’t want anything to come between you and Him, Genevieve. Please visit http://bit.ly/GodLoved to pray with a member of our team.

  3. Bb says:

    🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
    Pl do needful.

  4. Steve says:

    I hurt a friend and am trying to forgive myself. I am back in church trying real hard to change. As I have been clean for some time a friend found out of something I did few years ago. The guilt today has been overwhelming. Asking the lord for guidance in my situation.

  5. Elizabeth Boyle says:

    I am so grateful I found this page. I have done some terrible things in my past. I traveled down a terrible path, because I didn’t have enough faith in God. I have confessed my sins to God, and He has been guiding me on the road to recovery from those bad times. I can’t even express the joy and freedom He has brought me, despite everything. He has helped me right myour wrongs. Still, my guilt comes to haunt me sometimes. It is agonizing, an I always cry when these memories come back to me. Reading this helped me remember that God is greater than my heart, and I can always find peace and joy and in Him.

  6. Gary Reynolds says:

    What if I can’t find all of the people I wronged?

  7. nisa tobias says:

    ♡♡♡♡♡♡

  8. Norma says:

    When we truly believe that God has forgiven us and accept His forgiveness, we will know true forgiveness. We can never forgive ourselves for we are sinners. It takes the only Perfect One who knows no sin to forgive sins. “He who covers his sins will not prosper, but he who confesses and forsakes them will have mercy” Prov. 28:13. Believe that you are forgiven for God cannot lie.

  9. Pastor Abubakar Adidi says:

    You said you need forgiveness. God made a provision in 1 John 1:9. He says If you confess your sins he is faithful and just to forgive our sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness. Take forgiveness by obeying his word! God bless