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By   •   June 21, 2013   •   Topics: ,

Q:

My husband and I fight about money all the time. I hate it, and yet we no sooner say we're going to stop than something else comes up, and we start all over again. We both want it solved, but how do we get out of this? It's ruining our marriage.


A:

You’ve already taken the first step by admitting you have a problem and want to find a solution. And you can, because God doesn’t want money to destroy you, and He wants to help you get it under control.

Let me suggest three steps you might take to bring this problem under control. First, ask yourselves this question: How important is money to us — not only money, but also the things it can buy? Is it the most important thing in our lives? You’ll probably protest that it isn’t, but are you sure? For example, if it’s ruining your marriage (as you indicate), doesn’t that suggest money has become more important to you than your relationship? The Bible warns, “For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil” (1 Timothy 6:10).

The second question is this: How important should money be to you? Money shouldn’t be your master but your servant. In other words, what is your priority in life? Make God — not money or things — your priority, by turning to Christ and asking Him to become the center and foundation of your family, and your finances.

Finally, what practical steps can you take? Get a budget and stick to it. Avoid new debt; cut up your credit cards or lock them away if you can’t control them. Above all, follow the Bible’s command: “Keep your lives free from the love of money and be content with what you have” (Hebrews 13:5).

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9 Comments

  1. Monty says:

    The problem today is money buys so many things. The world is so full of temptation. Beware because so is Satan! Always turn to God first.

  2. Fran says:

    I totally agree with Billy's message…Love

  3. Bobbi says:

    My husband and I just had this same conversation today about paying our bills. It just seems like we keep paying on the same bills and we are not buying anything new. Our plan is to sit down together and come up with a plan to attack our bills.

  4. JJ. says:

    I have a 33 year old son with a six year old son. He cannot find a source of oncome and is very dis-satisfied with his life. I am trying to keep them going financially but iit is financially ruining me. What do I do???

  5. Charlotte says:

    The fear of not having enough money for retirement can be a trap, too. Now retired and downsized, my husband and I have more than enough for all our needs and many of our wants, even after giving to our church and several charities. Praise God!

  6. karen says:

    My husband and I are going through the same thing. I know this is so timely for me today. thank you so much Billy. God Bless you.

  7. carson says:

    Go to financail peace university so you and your spouse are a team as you learn to control your money

  8. Dondi says:

    Sometimes overspending can be a coverup for unhappiness in another area in your marriage–take a long hard look and be honest with yourself. Sometimes we self medicate with different things-the high for the moment sort of thing.

  9. Rhonda says:

    Just what I needed to read today! Thank you Lord for bring me herr today. God bless you Billy Graham