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My husband and I have been married almost 30 years, and now that our children are grown and out of the house, I have to admit we're bored with each other. We loved each other once, but I guess those days are over. Why should we stay together?


A:

One reason I wanted to print your letter is because I hope it will be a warning to younger couples who might otherwise end up on the same road.

After all, a marriage is somewhat like a vegetable garden; unless you tend it and take care of it, the weeds will overwhelm it and insects will devour its fruit. A good marriage doesn’t just happen; it takes work, and it takes commitment. Perhaps someone reading this has allowed their marriage to drift toward the rocks, and if so, I pray you won’t let it happen. The Bible says, “May you rejoice in the wife of your youth” (Proverbs 5:18).

Is it too late for you? No, of course not—not if you turn to God and seek His help for your marriage. What can He do? First, He can give you a new desire to see your marriage healed, as you open your hearts and lives to Christ and allow His love to fill you. Then He will help you find ways to move beyond your boredom and begin to love each other again. And that can happen as you seek to serve each other and make each other happy.

Don’t go down paths that may seem attractive to you right now, but will never give you the happiness you seek. Instead, put your lives and your marriage into Christ’s hands. Then seek out a church where you can grow closer to God, and to each other, as you serve Him.

To put your marriage in Christ’s hands, you must first invite Him into your life. Begin today.

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15 Comments

  1. Sandra smelcer says:

    Marriage is work, I would often think how I would feel without my mate, and God sends the answer very lonely, we love each other now for 43 years, fought at times but still going strong, couples give up too easy.

  2. edwynna says:

    I have givin all I have in my marriage of 31 years and my husband still long term cheated on me twice. Marriage is work but it must be both parties. That was 12 years ago. He did not want to split but does not see a problem. There is nothing more I can do and I feel my husband is taking asvantage of my commitment to the vows taken before God. Going on 32 years feeling more alone than ever. Please pray? TY

  3. Norma Jean Ballesteros says:

    Thank you for helping people understand life better.

  4. Miriam says:

    I just wanted to say that me and my husband have been married 20yeasrs this year, and what a blessing it is to us both to be married to each other. We have 2 beautiful girls ages 16 and 13. They are just the breath that we breathe, very good girls, who serve the Lord heartily. My advice to you would be to put God in the center of your relationship, and spend quality time together, and enjoy each other’s company. We can honestly say that we are each other’s best friends BUT the Lord comes first. After a long day, coming home to each other is a soft place to land, and refreshing. May God Bless you as He has us..